Guys and gals, if you could create the perfect person for you, what are the 10 most important qualities you want them to have? And you can go ahead and be a little shallow. If looks are important to you, go ahead and say it. We are all a little superficial... I'll start.

1) A good sense of humor
2) Compassionate: must love children and animals
3) Responsible: must have goals and take care of their responsibilities.
4) Hobby: there must be something that defines this person and distinguishes.
5) Must be well-informed (know at least something about current events, etc.)
6) Adventurous: they don't have to be athletic, but they have to at least TRY things. Me, I'll try anything (except sky diving).
7) Single: yeah...no married guys or dudes cheating on their girlfriends.
8) Have a job: They can be a college student or whatever, but it's pretty important to me that someone have a routine and an income to at least cover their own bills. I can't pay for someone else's bills (I've done that for boyfriends...this is not uncommon).
9) Eye contact: they have to look me in the eye...at least most of the time.
10) Have a car. They have to have a car. Or a bike. Even a pair of roller skates will do. Seriously though, I'm old fashioned and there is something chivalrous about being escorted by a guy in his car. I can't handle being the matriarchal chauffeur for a guy. Hey, I'm willing to sacrifice my dreams of being carried off into the sunset on a white steed for a white broken-down Buick, but nothing less!

Well, last year Tessy started a similar thread and I posted there....so I went and re-read it...and it's still pretty accurate...so here it is...about 4 posts down.

http://singlefamilyvoices.com/eve/forums/a/tpc/f/9951033691/m/1781016133

Mine is also a copy from a previous thread a few months bacK about the perfect man...


The perfect man. There is no such thing but there is the "perfect for me man". Which isnt really about how someone looks or that they like the same music but how they make you feel. I Am not looking for a man but I'll play along anyway.

The perfect husband would...
-Cook because I don't very well but will let me watch him as he does and even assist.
-when I have burnt dinner (which happens) and am on the verg of tears picks up take out along with some flowers because he understands that I tried.
-fix all the broken stuff without too much swearing.
-would make me laugh even during the hardest times of my life.
-Understand that I am not perfect physically (I have had 3 kids!)but he thinks I am anyway.
-Ride a motorcycle or at least a dirtbike.i dono why.
-know I think he is amazingly strong and comes to my rescue much of the time but knows that I can hold my own too.
-Want to take me places I have never been.(not necessarily expensive places)
-know a relationship takes constant work on both parts.
-Enjoy holding hands even after many years together.
-know everything I have done or thought that I may be ashamed of and loves me anyway.
-laughs at himself and reminds me not to take myself too seriously.
-knows who he is and the path that has made him that person..and knows the same about me.
-Will sit through chick flicks knowing he'll most likley be rewareded in the end.
-Put his children First Before anything and never needs to apoligise for that.
-be a good father and has the same basic beliefs about child rearing.
-adore my children as I would also adore his.
-Try to share his special intrests with me but understands if I am not as excited as he is about his new carborator. And he sits there while I show him my new pink shoes and I understand why he's not that excited either.
-Understand that I do not need a man but I want to need him.
-Always makes me feel like i am the only woman in the room.
-truly listen when I speak.
-Not mind when I babble and finds "interesting" ways to quiet me.
-know about stuff I don't and is always teaching me something new. And giving me things to think about.
-is not skinny, I prefer the teddy bear type.
-doesn't take me for granted.
-enjoys slow passionate kisses and knows all those little spots that make me quiver when he kisses them.
-Appreciate that I have a brain.
-Does little things to let me know he is thinking of me and understands how important those little things are to me.
-Appreciate all the little things I do for him.
-smell like a man and gets dirty. I know I Am wierd but when a man comes in after doing "man work" and he is dirty and smells like motor oil I am compelled to take him to the shower and help him "clean up".
-understand that I am a girly girl and doesnt mind(too much) waiting for the bathroom as I get prettied up
-Think all my irritating habits are "cute"
-Like my squeaky voice.
-Look alittle rough but is really just a marshmellow.
-Is the person I can count on for anything and always comes to me with all his problems.
-has an open mind and is always interested inm trying new things.
-knows I need affection,to be touched held and to brush that peice of hair out of my face when he looks into my eyes.
-knows we dont always have to love the same things as long as we love each other.
-Is a hard worked. Its just sexy when a man works with his hands as long as he has brains to go with it.
-I would never worry where he is if he's not home because I know he is doing his best to get home to us when other women may have to question ..I never would.
-would hold me up if I were sick/weak and would let me do the same for him.
-Is someone I wouldnt want to change and doesnt want to change me.
-Can express his feelings
-undrestands that if another man trys to flirt with me I would gently dismiss himand leave wrapped in your arms. There is no reason to beat up every guy who tries I can usually handle it and If I cant I will let you know.
-Knows if I am sad sometimes I need to talk, sometimes to be cheered up,SOmetimes I need two strong arms around me to let me know I't will be ok and sometimes all of the above.
-wants to spend time with the kids
-knows that even after years together I will still get alittle pink in the cheeks when he talks sweet to me..and he likes to make me pink.
-knows that sometimes I need to be taken out and made to feel like a princess and other times I need to be home in my PJs cuddled up with him on the couch.
-Is my best friend
-and most importantly when he puts his arms around me..I feel completly safe.

Didn't expect that to be so long! Didnt realize how picky I am till just now. But if I were looking for someone to sweep me off my feet most of these things would be required.
k.

Hmmm
Heartbeat, walking and talking.
All the right parts in the right places.
over 18.
some other minor things but we can talk about that later.

Dawg

This could be a long list ...

Not in any particular order, so here goes.

* - Must catch my eye, not just initially, but can dazzle me over and over again, without trying. This doesn't mean overly beautiful, but there's just something about that special someone that makes you feel good when you see them.

* - She must be nice, I don't understand how people can make a knee jerk opinion about others they don't know and be mean about it.

* - Understanding. Big one here, understand that I'm not perfect, I make mistakes, don't condemn me for it, talk to me about it, let me know what I've done so I can work to avoid doing it again.

* - She doesn't know how beautiful she is, without all the make-up and hair being done. I love the "Just woken up" look.

* - Building on the last one, it's ok to leave the house and not get all made up, especially to get groceries.

* - A sense of humor, definite must have. Gutter, subtle, dark, doesn't matter, just have one.

* - Surprise me. Little things matter and don't go un-appreciated. On her day off, call me to go to lunch, yes I work 50 miles away from home, that's what really makes it special.

* - Support my life decisions, don't belittle them or make them seem un-important. I realize that what I do for a living puts a strain on home life, don't add to it by getting upset if I am asked to travel for work.

* - Work with me to plan for our life, understand that I am trying to figure out what's best for our family and am open to ideas/suggestions/input as to where to go on vacation, how to save. We need to make decisions together, not separately then fight about which one is right.

* - Appreciate that everyone is an individual and we all need "Our own time". This does not mean that we each go out and party on our own, but does mean that there are times, when we just need our own space at home to "take a break" sometimes. Understand that when I don't want to go to something, it's not that I don't want to be with her, but that I see it as me getting my time.

* - Don't hold back. I want to know everything about her, her dreams, her goals. I want to be part of them.

* - Don't be afraid to tell me of her mistakes.

* - Don't be afraid of letting me take care of her. If she gets a cut/bruise/booboo, let me kiss it.

* - Definitely want to look her best when we go out, because I'm proud of being with her.

* - Self esteem, feel good about herself.

That's it for now, I'm sure there's more superficial things, but once past the initial attraction, the rest needs to be there.

Is someone calling me??

I have not found the perfect man for me yet but as soon as I do, I will list his qualities for ya'll. As for a list right now . .. let me have a night this week where I drink then I'll make my list

And I dont think wanting someone who is attractive physically to you is being shallow. Just for the record!

And Paul . . . and BAMY . . . ROFLMAO you two are funny.

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Hmmm
Heartbeat, walking and talking.
All the right parts in the right places.
over 18.
some other minor things but we can talk about that later.

Well...that is certainly a start Dawg.

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And I dont think wanting someone who is attractive physically to you is being shallow. Just for the record!

Well, no. I know that chemistry has to be there. I just thought I'd throw that out there for those that feel that they might look shallow for liking large chested women or well-chiseled men. I'm just hoping that nobody gets offended by this! It's just for fun.

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Originally posted by BASICALLYAMY:
Um my list is really short

A pulse
A job
Lots of energy
And can do a fantastic imitation of a tripod

Well two out of three an't bad.
little low on the energy part right now, but I got the first two.

Dawg

Dawg... sweetie... Amy's post has 4 requirements

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Originally posted by coffeebls2000:

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Hmmm
Heartbeat, walking and talking.
All the right parts in the right places.
over 18.
some other minor things but we can talk about that later.

Well...that is certainly a start Dawg.

Thank you, I'm just a simple, easy going type of guy. (until you mess with my kids, then look out)

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Originally posted by Tessmit:
Dawg... sweetie... Amy's post has 4 requirements

We can talk about the tripod later.

at this very moment, this is what would be very nice:

1)talks to me softly till I fall asleep... or he can bark and mutter about his day at work.

2)I have this very bad habit of calling guys "cute" when I really mean.... you can see the little boy in him when he's not too busy looking like a man.

3) warm! My anemic cold body is freezing this winter and I'm afraid of electric blankets.

(ok my list may change tomorrow since I'm still fighting NormaJ over HB and PJ... I'm calling her bluff on her recent post)

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Originally posted by Tessmit:
at this very moment, this is what would be very nice:

1)talks to me softly till I fall asleep... or he can bark and mutter about his day at work.

2)I have this very bad habit of calling guys "cute" when I really mean.... you can see the little boy in him when he's not too busy looking like a man.

3) warm! My anemic cold body is freezing this winter and I'm afraid of electric blankets.

(ok my list may change tomorrow since I'm still fighting NormaJ over HB and PJ... I'm calling her bluff on her recent post)

Well if you weren't lost in outer space and where a little bit easyer to find you wouldn't be so cold lady.