This question has been in my mind for sometime now. I've met a lot of single fathers here... most of them had their marriages annulled (we dont have divorce in this country) and I can say some have shown some interest in me. But I dont even have the desire to be in a relationship with any of them. Because for me, I will never enter into a relationship if I'm sure that it wont end up in marriage anyway. And now I'm kinda afraid of getting married. I guess I'm overprotective of Ian... I dont want to give him a step father who may play favorites (he may favor his own children over Ian) or worse... hurt him. That's why I think I have just closed my doors on guys who have expressed interest in me. I'd date them... but that is as far as it goes. Am I too paranoid?

Question:
So do you think you'll ever get married? Or do you think you'll get married again (for the once-married)?

Oh yeah... this poll is not really for the guys who are planning on marriage like Paul and NJ... or Jon & Capt... or whoever it is out there! LOL... but you can give your views if you want to.

Choices:
YES!
NO...

 

While this is an interesting topic, I did not vote. I am still on the fence on this one. I suppose that if I ever did meet someone, and they filled my list of wants and needs, then I would probably consider marrying them but on the other hand, I sometimes think that marriage is overrated. I am confused on this matter myself so . . . my answer would be maybe at this point.

I'm still waiting for the guy that will sweep me off my feet and will take my breath away.

I voted yes. I actually would like to get married again. I liked being married. If circumstances between my ex and I had been different, I think it would have been good. I'm also worried about some of the things you mentioned above, but I think the answer to that is taking a lot of time to get to know someone before getting married. (at least I hope that's the answer) I

Well I evened up the voting with a 'no'. Maybe that's just a feeling - thinking I will meet the perfect person for me and my kids is pretty far fetched, at least to my mind. So no I don't think I will ever re-marry. Of course I married late (34) the first time after never thinking that would happen either (the baggage of how that one worked out would be something I'd have to get past as well).

I really hope to get married one day. I have met a great guy who I do love (crazy I know), but marriage is so scary. I really want to get married, be a wife and have more kids. But I also think about what happens if I marry this guy and we have kds, I don't want Gabe feeling like the odd ball out cause his siblings have _____ as their dad and he's not his real dad. Then I think what if I do get married I do want to get rid of my last night and be Mrs. So N So, but what about Gabe? I don't want him having a different last name as me. And it would be one thing if he had his father's last name but he's got mine. But unless the man I was marrying adopted Gabe, his name wouldn't change but then I wouldn't want to bring that up and make him feel pressured to take that step. And then I also think what if the marriage turns out to be a terrible idea and he's a con man like my mom's 2nd husband, he would of just adopted my son and gotten rights to him. LOL this is what goes on in my head on a regular basis. I don't think you are overprotective Dawn, I think you are just trying to be careful which is a great thing and something I'm trying to do as well. This dating and being a single parent thing is just so dang hard.

I voted No.

I will not be having any more kids, and without kids I don't see the point of getting married. I'm all for the idea of finding someone to get old with, but signing an agreement that says I'm legally tied to whatever dumb thing they may decide to do...I dunno why I'd ever do that. I don't see why in this day and age, I'd sign up for that vulnerability.

Honestly, if we're talking about a kidless couple? I believe they'd try harder and do better in the relationship than the married couples I see, who've sort of given up on themselves and each other over time; accepting a life I wouldn't want to accept. Without marriage, both people'd be free to go whenever they were no longer satisfied but that freedom might motivate both people to do more to make the other one happy.

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Originally posted by missabb:
I voted yes. I actually would like to get married again. I liked being married. If circumstances between my ex and I had been different, I think it would have been good. I'm also worried about some of the things you mentioned above, but I think the answer to that is taking a lot of time to get to know someone before getting married. (at least I hope that's the answer) I

I'm gonna go with missabb on this one...couldn't have said it better.

Imma yes, cuz I'm one of those guys that wants that fairytale happy ending with the little house in the country with the white picket fence and the dog in the yard...You know....The hopeless type....there needs to be a pill for this....

imma a no

my life has never been that easy but i'm hoping i'm wrong and this time it will work

I voted yes. Even though though I am scared to death of experiencing those problems again, I've just reasoned that for me, marriage is better than being single.

I just know for myself, I am in my element, shining bright when I am taking care of other people. I loved being a wife, and I love fiercely. I don't think I was made this way by accident. I am certified lonely now and that could be what's talking here.

But the question is will I get past all the reservations and fear to get what I want.

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Originally posted by LolaO:

I just know for myself, I am in my element, shining bright when I am taking care of other people. I loved being a wife, and I love fiercely. I don't think I was made this way by accident.

I am the very same way, Lola. I feel completely empty when I'm not loving and taking care of someone. My family is me and the kids...it always feels like we're missing someone.

I voted yes.

I've never been married myself, but I've seen the battles that go along with it. One would think with all the examples I've seen of marriage that I'd vote a strong adamant NO. I just truly believe that one day I'll meet the person that is willing to be monogamous with me.

I do want more children. I do want to be a stay at home Mom. I want to be the gal that has dinner on the table when my hubby comes home. I want the picket fence and enough country yard around us that it doesn't wake the neighbors when we have a drag out scream at each other.

Funny thing is....I'd settle for a man who loves me and wants to battle through the rough times together in a tiny 2 room shack. Because with the right person by your side, a 2 room shack can seem like heaven.

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No fair !!! I can't vote!!! LOL

Obviously I would vote yes because i am getting married again. but had you asked me 6 months ago I would have strongly said "NO way" I was sure I would never get married again that I was happy on my own. But when you meet that person that you were ment to be with everything you thought you knew changes. So even those of you voting "No" Im sorry to say you really don't know what life has in store for you. I didn't know and if you tried to tell me otherwise I would have argued the point till I was blue. I had no idea what he(god) had planned for me. But I also know how stubburn I was so I realize that as your reading this your saying..."Maybe for her but not me..that would never happent to me". Because thats what I would have said.

I hope to get married again. Hopefully I will know more then I did the first time. I have to believe in happy endings....keeps me going!

I voted NO

But then again I'm also still in a fight with "She" and may not be ready to get stupid again.

I thought I had found my best friend but I was wrong, so maybe she is still out there just waiting to be found.

as for now NO sorry


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