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Originally posted by Rosee:
[qb]Hi, I'm from Missouri, just been handed down my babys life sentence. Do we as mothers really have no recourse where drug addicted fathers are concerned? I felt whole heartedly that my attorney tucked his tail between his legs. And I paid him to represent me how? Because of there being drugs involved we were appointed a Gardian Ad Litum, but for this court hearing finilizing custody, he didn't even make an appearance, even tho I sent certified, letters of what I would concider poor parenting on the fathers visitation. ei: my son saying he was locked in the car, no one came to get me, I was scared!
I felt that the Judge did not allow any problems to be heard, and he handed out visitation like the father was a picture painted father. When my attorney brought up the drug issue after I actually had to argue with him to do so, the judge promptly said that in out youth, we all make mistakes, and we don't want to be judged by these mistakes. Wake up there judge. This man is 28 years old and a 10 year meth abuser. I feel that this is my baby, and my rights to say no have been taken away. Under contract of marriage a child is concidered property, and so joint custody is awarded, however this sperm doner did not even pay any support until my child was 1 year, I was served with papers and I went to CSE to protect myself. Do we as single mothers that bare this alone, not have a right to be compensated for damages. I think we should! What do you think? How many of these men would be coming forward with custody suits if they thought for 1 minute that they may have to compensate monitary wise, what the women went through for 9 months, giving birth amd after affects. I would do anything for my child, but not give my child to him. Let's face it, you can put all the eggs, and lets make it 1 step easier, a fertilized egg, in any man and the result would be nothing. But you can put any vible sperm in most any women (there are exceptions of coarse) and this women will be a giver of life! So why are we not recogonized for this? In addition, Why without the benefit of a contract (as in marriage) does this man have any rights?
Do you know how heart wrenching it is to have someone you don't trust, and has been a drug addict long enough he can't even care for himself, tear your 17 month old baby out of your arms, and to a person he never saw before. And then to hear him screaming mommy through closed doors and windows, all the waydown the road. This going on for every visitation for at least 4 months. What kind of a monster would want to do this to a baby. This must be real parental love.
What do you think? [EMAIL]r_rosee*yahoo.*** [/EMAIL]

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Originally posted by Rosee:
[qb]Hi, I'm from Missouri, just been handed down my babys life sentence. Do we as mothers really have no recourse where drug addicted fathers are concerned? I felt whole heartedly that my attorney tucked his tail between his legs. And I paid him to represent me how? Because of there being drugs involved we were appointed a Gardian Ad Litum, but for this court hearing finilizing custody, he didn't even make an appearance, even tho I sent certified, letters of what I would concider poor parenting on the fathers visitation. ei: my son saying he was locked in the car, no one came to get me, I was scared!
I felt that the Judge did not allow any problems to be heard, and he handed out visitation like the father was a picture painted father. When my attorney brought up the drug issue after I actually had to argue with him to do so, the judge promptly said that in out youth, we all make mistakes, and we don't want to be judged by these mistakes. Wake up there judge. This man is 28 years old and a 10 year meth abuser. I feel that this is my baby, and my rights to say no have been taken away. Under contract of marriage a child is concidered property, and so joint custody is awarded, however this sperm doner did not even pay any support until my child was 1 year, I was served with papers and I went to CSE to protect myself. Do we as single mothers that bare this alone, not have a right to be compensated for damages. I think we should! What do you think? How many of these men would be coming forward with custody suits if they thought for 1 minute that they may have to compensate monitary wise, what the women went through for 9 months, giving birth amd after affects. I would do anything for my child, but not give my child to him. Let's face it, you can put all the eggs, and lets make it 1 step easier, a fertilized egg, in any man and the result would be nothing. But you can put any vible sperm in most any women (there are exceptions of coarse) and this women will be a giver of life! So why are we not recogonized for this? In addition, Why without the benefit of a contract (as in marriage) does this man have any rights?
Do you know how heart wrenching it is to have someone you don't trust, and has been a drug addict long enough he can't even care for himself, tear your 17 month old baby out of your arms, and to a person he never saw before. And then to hear him screaming mommy through closed doors and windows, all the waydown the road. This going on for every visitation for at least 4 months. What kind of a monster would want to do this to a baby. This must be real parental love.
What do you think? [EMAIL]r_rosee*yahoo.*** [/EMAIL]

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Originally posted by THINKER:
[qb]He will eventually get his.. Good always prevails. It does make me sick too. I wish there was something more I could say to you. I will personally pray for you and hope that things will work out. We all have our challenges we have to work out and God won't give you anything you can't handle. Just know he is planning something much bigger for you and yours.

My ex and I were in a 4 year custody battle and it about killed me. It consumed my every thought and every day. Then magically one day (my daughter was 7 or 8) he remarried and had more kids and now my daughter (now 12)doesn't see him anymore but maybe 2-3 times a year. Our life is full and wonderfull. His....not so good. Hang in there! Keep us posted.[/qb]

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Originally posted by THINKER:
[qb]He will eventually get his.. Good always prevails. It does make me sick too. I wish there was something more I could say to you. I will personally pray for you and hope that things will work out. We all have our challenges we have to work out and God won't give you anything you can't handle. Just know he is planning something much bigger for you and yours.

My ex and I were in a 4 year custody battle and it about killed me. It consumed my every thought and every day. Then magically one day (my daughter was 7 or 8) he remarried and had more kids and now my daughter (now 12)doesn't see him anymore but maybe 2-3 times a year. Our life is full and wonderfull. His....not so good. Hang in there! Keep us posted.[/qb]

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Originally posted by THINKER:
[qb]He will eventually get his.. Good always prevails. It does make me sick too. I wish there was something more I could say to you. I will personally pray for you and hope that things will work out. We all have our challenges we have to work out and God won't give you anything you can't handle. Just know he is planning something much bigger for you and yours.

My ex and I were in a 4 year custody battle and it about killed me. It consumed my every thought and every day. Then magically one day (my daughter was 7 or 8) he remarried and had more kids and now my daughter (now 12)doesn't see him anymore but maybe 2-3 times a year. Our life is full and wonderfull. His....not so good. Hang in there! Keep us posted.[/qb]

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Originally posted by Rosee:
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