What is the difference if you were not married and had a child to if u were married and had a child? I been throught the WHOLE system for my FIRST child but i am JUST going through the system for my divorce AND child support. What do they do if the dad is SELF employed and never really claimed any $$??

I am SO nervous as this is coming full speed ahead and to be HONEST I am SCARED to let the prick have anything to do with my daughter! I was physically and verbally abused for 27 months.

When i got pregnant he WISHED i had a miscarrige, then he wish she was born still and AFTER she was born he wished the worst on her! You ask WHY didnt i leave then, well truth be told I wasnt STRONG to leave, i didnt think i COULD get away! I was scared of him and felt her would HURT me if i tried to leave! PLUS we owed my parents a LOT of $$. So i tried to put up with it and NEVER EVER left the baby alone with him. She was ALWAYS in my arms!

My children DIDNT fit in his life style YES he was pretty good to the oldest who ISNT is but couldnt stand the baby! I cried all the time she was my precious! So I am AFRAID to let him get visitation! He has NOT seen her since June. I got him on abuse charges and he TOOK a guilty plea. But still i am afraid to let him have her alone! It scares me she doesnt know him and what if he hurt her.

I STRESSED this to my lawyer and we are asking for SUPERVISED visits through the YWCA!

If anyone has been through a divorce can u shed some light?? How long did it take to get finalized?

I have a restraining order on this man and plan to NEVER talk to him again. My parents will be the communicator FOR us because i cant stand him and never want him near me again. He hasnt given me a DIME since i left in June. UGH next Friday and Saturday I have the divorce class!