I know my brother and his wife are going through hard times. My sister n law found out that my brother was talking to a woman online. He says nothing happened, especially since she lives in another city 2 hours away and also he has never met her. But he also found out that she was talking to a guy at work. They were also talking online and stuff. Well my brother stopped talking to the girl but my sister n law is still talking to this guy. My brother and his wife have 2 little kids under 3 years old. Well he got a new job and a week later they fired him cause of him not knowing how to spell. My brother is also a hypochondriac. Well after his wife found out that he lost his job, she said she was leaving him. She was picking the other guy over him (the other guy is married and has 2 kids of his own). After she told my brother this, he went crazy.

I get a call from my mom that my brother being in the emergency room yesterday. My sister n law said that my little brother took a whole bottle of volume that was prescribed to him by a psychiatrist who he was already seeing for depression. So she called 911 and they rushed my little brother to the emergency room. Then after they flushed him out, they moved him to a different hospital with a pysch ward, which they are keeping him for 3 days. Here to find out, he made the story up about the pills so his wife wouldn�t walk out on him.

He calls me from the hospital today and all he can talk about was his wife and how he can hold onto her, not of the kids or anything like that. So I�m there listening to him cry on the phone and feeling so sorry for him and the pain he�s going through but all I can think of is shouting at him. I just want to tell him it�s over with her and to move on. If she had chosen this other guy over you, then why the crap are you still trying to hold on.

So now I�m here venting about him and asking for opinions. Do I baby him when he calls to talk to me or do I tell him that he needs to stop acting like he�s 12 years old and to move on with his life for his kids? I'm just so frustated with him and the way he's acting!!

Hey sillergirl,
I think you need to let your brother feel what ever he is feeling. He is loosing his wife and although it is logical for him not to want her, he loves her and he is hurting. His feelings are his and nothing you do or say is going to change that. He will work through them but only by going through them not around them. He will come around to thinking more about the kids in time. If they are being well cared for he probably knows that.
prayers are with you and your brother.

You can let him know that he is accountable for his actions, but don't condemn him. If he couldn't come to you about his most sensitive emotions who would he go to? You're a really great sister to be there for him. Vent all you want to us about his problems we'll listen!

Well they let him out tonight. I got a call from him first thing this morning. He said that he talked yesterday to a priest and is now reading the bible. He said that he's never felt better. His mission now is to find a job and take care of his kids.

I hope he works through them if she doesn't stay with him.