Dear ALL,
I am the single mother of an 11-year old boy. I'm a newbie here and have really enjoyed reading and replying to some of the topics I've read. Ya'all are great! I've got a question I've been struggling with lately, and want to know if it's just me or if anyone else has had any similar experiences with this. As I've stated, my SON is 11. About 6-months ago, I think aliens came in the night and secretly sucked his brains out. I talk to him and he doesn't hear me. He can't think for himself, and he walks into stuff. I mean, I still love him with every breath of my being, but the child I've given birth to and raised for 11 1/2 years has mystically become brain-dead. I have to tell him something about 5 times, and by that point I'm yelling it. Then he looks at me in amazement and says, "Mom, why do you yell at me all the time?" He used to love to play in the tub. Now it's like pulling teeth to get him to bath. Once he's in there he loves it, but getting him to do it in the first place is a major chore. And he can't even remember to pull his fly up. Or tie his shoes. Is it just me or is this an awfully long phase I just need to endure? Can anyone help?

lol

I think he's simply becoming a man

Hi Star,
My ex has teenage boys.And over the years I saw them change from little caring boys for whom butter wouldn't melt in their mouths to completely Brain dead teenage slobs.
It is a growing thing.They snap out of it when they get girlfiends (hopefully)and they have to be nice and tidy and thoughtful !!!!!(well that's the theory)


Hugs,

Mark


Mark

Star

It sounds like normal pre adult stuff going on with him.......lol........Hang in there.

Drew

HAHAHA yeah all of the things I have to look forward to.

Mine 9 year old is kind of going through the same stage.I have to say something over and over before I get an answer then it's usually a smart mouth one.He acts like he doesn't want to do anything with me anymore,especially if any of his friends will be able to see us together.And the worst change of all,all of the sudden he thinks he should have all these new "PRIVLEDGES" as he calls them,like going places alone,riding his bike in the rode and down the sreet by himself.I HATE IT!!!!! I WANT MY BABY BACK!!!!!!!!
It about breaks my heart when he acts like this.I hope this is just a stage,and if it is WHEN DOES IT END!!!!!!!!!!!!
Good luck with yours Star,I think we're going to need it.

My son is 6 and going through that phase already. He can't say anything without it being sarcastic. Where does a 6 year old learn sarcasm? He doesn't ever do anything the first 20 times he's asked. Of course after the 50th time calling him or telling him to do something, I'm yelling and he's asking why I always yell. I just have to say, "Thank God! It's not just me!"

Good luck!!!

-Jennifer

You all are giving me chills. My baby boy is only 18 months old and now I'm thinking of looking into freezing him in time! But, I do remember my brother going through that same thing. He lived in "the cave" (AKA his room) for most of his teenage years. All hygiene was thrown out until his Jr. or Sr. year when he started to think about dating as an actual possibility. The only good news is (even though he's always been anti-social)he is now happily married, calls his mother at least 1 time a week, and I hear he is really picky about what scent of soap is bought to take a bath with.

You mean they actually start using soap, by themself, without being provoked? They have those cryogenic freeze chambers. You could have a really cute frozen son. Problem is, it would be a one way hug and that isn't much fun. I just want one of the Delorians like from "Back to the Future" so I can revisit the time he wasn't making my hair turn grey and I didn't get calls from the principal/teacher.

I think if we could do that - we'd come back and get 2 x's as frustrated at the behavior we get today. At least over a period of time isn't as bad as seeing how different they are overnight.

Maybe you're right. Guess I'll have to settle for watching him sleep. At least then he still looks like a sweet angel.

I have two boys and you people have managed to scare the **** out of me!!! I think I will go nuts if my boys turn out like my brother. I grew up walking past a door where all I could smell was nasty, disgusting dirty socks. Oh man, and me being extremely anal, almost obsessive compulsive with how clean my house is, this is bad, really really bad. lol

Hey everyone,
It is so good to know that I'm not alone in this.I have trying everything,bribing,gifts,extra privlidges,nothing works.He's ok as long as everything goes his way or he's not asked to do something he doesn't want to do,then the alien son appears and there's just no talking to him.If I hear "Mom,you need to stop" one more time I will scream.Any tips anyone has to get through this would be greaton the other hand,the freezing does have possibilities.Good luck all.