Hmmm im a 22 yr old single father and Im looking for that speacail someone. Its kinda hard. There seems to not be alot of girls out there that want a guy with a kid. I dont know what to really say on here, But im looking so if anyone would like to get to know me.


Edited by Mark 7/27/05

Hey tfk and welcome to the site. Not looking for a relationship, plus I am to old for you. lol

I just wanted to welcome you to the site. There are a lot of great people here who are glad to support you in the difficulties of being a single father. I sure hope you stick around and get to know some of them.
There are a lot of posts in the dating forum asking how to meet people maybe some of those will give you some ideas.
Best of luck to you, God bless.

How do I meet people in my area? or search for them?

I'm surprised Don or one of the other boys hasn't noticed this post yet. They'll advise you not to post your email addy for safety purposes but recommend to use the private posting system. I'm sure you'll hear from them soon!

Hi and welcome to the board. It's great to see another single dad join us. Your just to far away for me. L Sorry I can't stand constant heat that's why I live in Vermont. Get all four season and love it.

Anyways Good luck on your sreach. Can't give you advice on how to find people in your area! Heck I can't even hunt people down in my state!

SPIRIT

where is winter park anywayz?

tomany2count, how old are you? hmmm. anyway, looking for "that special someone" as a single parent is not an easy task. looking tends to lead to trying too hard and trying to hard leads being disapointed and scaring people off. I am sure many people here will tell you look out for your children first, and if you are looking, try single moms. some one that knows the problems of single child raising. so good luck

TFK ... Welcome to SFV ~ this is a great place to communicate with other single parents - and share experiences... advice... and just have a place to express how you are feeling.

If you are *just* looking to meet someone ... you might try eharmony, match.com, yahoo personals... places like that. There are also online dating sights directed to single parents. Do a search on yahoo. I joined one once, and had a few dates.

Good luck ~ and be patient. You are young... you'll find someone when the time is right.

25 plus ALOT!!! Isn't there some rule about asking ages? LOL

TFK. I have heard of a lot of people meeting at sports events for the kids, church, fairs, different places like that.
I don't know where winter park is either but around here it is not unusual for parents to be single at your age.
I am sure you will find that special someone soon. In the mean time stick around and have some laughs with us. Like it was said this is a good group of people.

You think trying to find that 'someone' with one child is hard try with 5. For me its just a wish as time just wont allow it (or children rather) but thank goodness for sites like this where I can yarn to like minds as though I was at a function or something (boy,do I sound sad). However, all the best to you TFK a single Dad speaks volumes and if the woman you spot can't see that then maybe they're not the one.

ok well i got you all beat try finding someone with a little one on the way Where is winter park anyway? Its just nice to have companionship and someone to spend time with and have fun thats what i really need right now.

I am a single father of 2 girls so I know it is ard finding a woman.

To be honest, it is easier for fathers to find a woman then a mother to find a man. It is sad but this is he reason why:

Most men (I SAID MOST) don't want a woman with so called extra baggage. They want a woman who is problem free so they don't feel like they are dealing with some other guys problems.

Most women (AGAIN MOST) are looking for the responciblt guy that won't let them down. The one that they know will take care of them and not leave them for some girl because he thinks she is cutier or whatever his reason is. A man who is a father raising a child on his own and living in his own house shows a great deal of responcibility and family oriented goals.

The sad part is that women basically are looking at it in the right way, where men aren't for the most part. Most of the people here think differently then the rest of the world because we been through the hardships that go against the mens' thinking I just explained.

For the record I never thought like anyone else, I never saw no box to think in. I have dated many mothers in the past and found most of them to be more like me since they were not as much as a clubbing / bar hopping woman like I am not.

Oh, a little advice. I have a CB in my truck with a PA speaker ($10.00 online). My oldest daughter who is turning 2 next month loves playing with it. I taught her to use it because I think when she uses it she is very cute. By accident I learned that she also has the ability to draw the attention of people very easily, specially women when she is yelling, "Daddy's Truck!" through it and "Airplane!". Just for the record, I didn't have it to meet women, I installed it so I could yell at drivers going 40 mph on the left lane of a highway that is 65 mph, the smokers who flick their cigarettes on my truck, and the stupid people who sit at a green light in the left turn lane just because the green arrow is not lit (It does show green, you can go knowing you don't have the right of way). It's not that I have road rage and I do, but I just get annoyed with stupid people and it seems like they are everywhere. I either sound like a bad person right now or people are thinking that they have a lot of car stories where stupid people annoyed them.

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Most men (I SAID MOST) don't want a woman with so called extra baggage. They want a woman who is problem free so they don't feel like they are dealing with some other guys problems.

Glenn, I know it's not YOU saying this. But to any man who thinks children are "baggage" I say BITE ME! There are a lot of things that can be called baggage, but children are NOT one of them!

*bright smile*

If a guy thinks my kids are baggage, he can hit the road!

Men who meet women with children aren't looking directly at the children but rather how "mom" relates to her children. A mom who takes great care of her kids may not have time for that man which may be the turn off. A mom who puts herself ahead of the children is a definite turn off. Sorta catch22 here. You're unattractive if you neglect your kids to free up time or your attractive as heck but have no time for the man. So it's not that she has kids but how will he fit in that the man thinks about.

I feel for ya ladies.

...and kids aren't baggage...they're gifts from God and a real joy when you take 'em fishing on summer holidays.

I agree with Jaysdad AND Glenn. I've seen both side of the coin, first hand. I dated a guy who told me he had no problem over the fact that I had a child, however, he almost expected me to sit him on top of a shelf. He complained a lot on how I didn't give him enough time together. Well, as far as I'm concerned, once a week to start is good enough for me. Apparently it wasn't for him.

On the flip side, I've met men who've been interested in me (knowing I have a child) but only as a short-term fling .. ya, NOT THANKS! I've rarely been given the chance to be seen as a long term prospect (with a half-decent guy).

Ya it sucks!