My title sounds werid but really is it ok to accept the fact that yes 90% of the time I enjoy and love being a single mommy? I guess I'm selfish b/c to be honest I have had my son to raise for 8yrs and do not want to share him w/a "father". I would if the time came but I still love being his world and hero. As for the new baby I can't wait to mother it and share it w/my son and mom, dad and stepdad. But I don't want to share it w/the bio dad. I just feel that I carried these two kids on my own, share the birth of my son and wills share the birth of my new baby w/my mom why should I willing share these two really awesome people w/the dads or anyone? I want my kids to have a dad. Maybe I just feel this way b/c I have not meet a man that is worthy enough for my kids and myself.

Granted I'm stressed over the bill and money stuff but then it's nice to be able to know I can take care of things on my own. I have rule of my house and can raise my kids how I want. To be honest I want to share the fun times w/a "father" but the disaplince I don't mind taking control of b/c I don't like to spank my son unless it's dire curcumstances and that is the only way. Many man don't feel that way. there are just so many ways that I raise my son and will raise my new baby that I am pretty set on. Is that wrong to want to control that part in my kids' lives? I also enjoy the hugs and kisses that maybe I'm not willing to give up to someone else yet.

It's a struggle being a single parent but it still has it rewards. The bond I have w/my son and will have w/my new baby is one that only a single parent can form.

Is it wrong of me? I willing share...do I have to right now? I would like to share my kids lives w/someone special just not today. LOL.

My son and I went on his daycare end of the year tirp and it went awesome! He behaved like an angel and I was so proud of him. He's so cool.

I don't know it the pregnancy hormones are kicking in but it's just a good feeling I have today. I like myself and I want to enjoy this so much.

Ok rambled but are there any other women or men out there that love and enjoy being a single parent a lot of times? Am I just crazy LOL.

SPIRIT

I agree with you 100%, but think it is because of the bad experiences I have had with my kids mothers. They didn't think long term about the impact their choices had on our kids. I too miss sharing the fun things with a partner but have learned to share them with my friends and family. Like just this week my 7 yr old started riding his bike with no training wheels it was great to share that with my mom and sister and one of my best friends. I enjoy all the parental duties like feeding them and bathing them and reading to them and teaching them about manners, and respect, and duty. I want my kids to grow up with the same values that I have and to care about each other and others. My ex's don't even have good relationships with their families (that should have been a sign). And I love showing my kids off to friends and coworkers.

I don't think you are crazy, I think you are a proud parent, who has done the job of 2 people and deserves credit for that..

SPIRIT,

I think it's wonderful that you enjoy being a single mom! There are many times when I do too. I think, because I do not have any family, and my friends tend to be busy (just like me) that, I do long for a partner to share things with. The fact that you are happy with your situation is a sign that you are happy with who you are - and I think that is great!!

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Hey dali ... I notice you didn't mention anything about liking to change diapers! hehe

God u have my life!I agree with u 100% i have 2 children 1 of the children c there father and the other has never wanted 2 no her,And wouldnt bloody let him now after 7 years!I love being a single mum,no one 2 ask me where im going how long im going 2 be,or 2 tell me the way i bring my kids up are not 2 there standards!whats there not 2 love.i hope u feel like that when ur babys born because all i wanted 2 do was feel sorry 4 myself and cry,but pull through that and u'll get 2 this feeling again,1 day there will b sum1 4 both of us but hey atleast we r not miserable waiting 4 them.lifes 2 short.good luck with the baby u sound like ur a fab mum

Ceri, need help? lol

Nope dont think so do i sound like i do?

lol no i guess we both posted at the same time. I wasnt sure if you knew how to respond to a post but I can see now you've figured it out.

Welcome aboard.

I thought i was doing rather well 4 my 1st time using a computer intill u mentioned that lol.then i looked at the screen with all my trial replies and thought uh oh u havnt quite cracked it yet!

It's great to know that i'm not the only one that enjoys being a single mom. Ceri your right it's great not to have to answer to anyone or give anyone a reason of why you corrected your child that way for gave him/her a reward for that reason! Granted there are days when I would love to have someone there to support me in raising my two kids but hey that day will come but like you said be happy while you're waiting.

Dali you're right I am a proud parent and enjoy my son and can't wait for the new baby to be here.

InnI I think I am starting to be ok w/me and where i'm at in life. Sure there are a few things I need to change (apartment, budgeting money, etc.)but they are things that I know I can turn around if I'm strict w/my money and self. The inner me is doing better and I think I had to work on that b4 I could conquer the other issues.

SPIRIT

I so admire those of you who are so comfortable with being a single parent. I definitely struggle with it on an almost daily basis - I love my son, and I love being a mother but most of the time I wish I could share it with someone. Good for you for being comfortable with who you are and where you are in life!

You know, I go through phases whare I want to find that right man...but on the off season, lol, I am 100% happy to be a single mom. I adore my son, and when I start talking to guys and think about dating, I realize I only have the time and energy to raise my son, and work on providing a future, not to mention having a speck of time to just to what I want to do. I have a pretty great set up, in that Trent has a few steady male role models in his life. he and Grandpa (my dad) are buddies, and he really gets along with his own dad, though I'm not sure if he understands "who" daddy is. He sees him for about 2 hours every sunday, and they play, and then mommy picks him up and goes home, where he lives with mamma and Grandpa. When he gets older, he'll figure it out.

Anyway, I don't know how I would handle bringing someone else into the mix. Most guys don't understand the vital role my dad plays in Trents life, and assume that once Trent has a "dad" in the home, that Grandpas job is done. That is completely not the case. I'd rather have no man, and have my dad remain a vital role in Trent's life, then bring some schmuck in to "replace" anyone. Trent adores his Grandpa, and quite frankly, I'll only be 40 when Trent turns 18. I have plenty of time to sew my wild oats after he graduates high school and goes out into the real world. haha.

Honeybee,

I completely understand. A few of the male friends I have say that my son needs a "dad" in the home. But like you I love the relationship that he has w/my step-dad. I would never want to replace that in a million years! I know this new baby will have the relationship w/him. If it's a girl it will have my mom as well. So I feel very lucky.

By the time i turn 37yrs. my oldest will be 18yr and my youngest will 10yrs. So I have time then to date and have a little fun. Always keep it under control b/c of my 10yr old.

I know there is so much time us single parents invest in our kids and our own time that where the heck do we fit in a new relationship?!

Right now I'm happy to be a mom to my son and my new baby in December. How do the couples do it honestly? LOL

SPIRIT

It is ok to be a single parent as long as you are happy...

This is the life I chose and I love it! My daughter is the most wonderful thing I have ever done. Every so often I wish I had someone to share things with. But that feeling passes. I can't imagine that I could find a man who I would feel is worthy of being part of my daughter's life.

Yes, it is okay to love being a single mom!!!

Laurie