So, here I am pregnant and very single. Shall I count on being single until well after I have my daughter? Does this seriously mean no *** until this winter (baby due in Nov)? lol I don't know if I can do this....heh

I guess what I'm saying is it unacceptable or a big joke to even think I could possibly date while I'm pregnant?

That is something you are going to have to decide. However, you may want to focus on you and the baby for a while instead of getting right out there and dating. You will be surprised at how much things will change after your baby is born.

I would wait until after she is born. Things will be different and you will need to focus on taking care of your baby first.
I'm sure there is a guy out there that would love to take care of you and help raise your little girl. Just be careful!

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Originally posted by SingleMomAZ:
I guess what I'm saying is it unacceptable or a big joke to even think I could possibly date while I'm pregnant?

This is not entirely true. There are some great guys out there that wouldn't care. My cousin fell in love with and married an AWESOME guy four months after she found out she was pregnant with TWINS (and not his babies)!! If you want to date, you should.

BTW, cute belly pic!

I'm probably gonna regret doing this but you asked for it straight up

there have been times I've seen a pregnant women who appeared single, and I've said to myself man I'd tear that up. that may seem crude but my blood is red

so yes, you can date, there will def. be men out there willing to date you

on the other hand, would I want to start a relationship with a pregnant woman? The next months for you are going to be really tumultuous and emotional, it takes a brave sailor to ride those waves

I think for your emotional health, it would be best for you to avoid dating right now, but the ladies here know better than I do. I defer to their feminine wisdom.

You need to do what is good for you..it is a personal decision.
I was single for the end of my pregnancy and dating was not on my mind...or well really dating..I got my man interaction through myspace talking to people who didn't know I was pregnant.
You will be going through a lot of ups and downs emotionally and hormonally..not to mention the zombie lack of sleep period where *** is the last thing on your mind
And you will find..that for a great while the only love affair you are interested in will be you and your baby..you wont be interested in talking to too many other people.

Physically...you know where babies come from and for awhile you won't want anything there!lol

but if you do decide to date, be careful and physically be careful as some infections can be passed to the baby

Aflight to NH may be in order how you doing

*** may not be on your mind towards the end of your pregnancy...but right now I'm sure it is. I remember in my fist and second trimester i had the highest *** drive of my life...but no one to use it on. LMAO!

well, I guess we need to see the face that matches that baby bump to see if you even have a shot at dating - LOL!

I was in a very similar situation. Got pregnant in March and was solo by May. Things got crazy in my world so there really wasnt time for me to date (sick parents, own a business) while I missed it at first, as time went on it was an amazing journey to be totally and completely single (which i still am) and I am a better person for it.

I have always been with someone. Since my first kiss at age 12 there has always been a boy/man in my life. In my youth I'd date several boys at once - why not? As I got older it was definitely one at a time, but I cant really think of any time in my life that I was alone. There was always someone lurking and hitting on me.

If you saw the movie Runaway Bride, that was me - I was engaged 6 times before I married the 7th. It was such a silly point - how did she like her eggs? It just showed how she changed who she was to better complement the man in her life without any real regard to who she actually was. She had no idea. As it was for me. I am pretty bold and out there at times, but like a duck in a lake, you see the calm exterior and never really see those legs under the water paddling in a frenzy.

It has been over a year since I've gone on a date - not for the lack of trying from men out there - and now I am really seeing things from a different perspective. I would go on a first date and think "Gee I hope he likes me" and I would be on my best behavior, I'd have a pile of clothing on my bed as I tried on endless outfits to look my best. Flats if he was short, heels if he was tall, blah blah blah...

The next person I date will not just be dating Laurie - he'll be dating Faith's mommy. Perhaps Laurie had to be a perfect size 2 with a BMI off the charts to be acceptable. But Faith's mommy has her own self worth these days. Faith's mommy will be thinking "Gee I wonder if I like him. Gee I wonder if he is worthy of my time, of meeting my daughter, of sharing our life."

I realize 16 year old girls come to this realization every day - I am just a painfully slow learner. But it is a lesson I never would have learned without removing myself from the situation, from the temptation, from the band-aid on loneliness that a warm complimentary body next to you provides.

Whichever route you take, I wish you well and you will find folks here to cheer you on and lift you up and yes, to mock you endlessly as well.

As stated above it's really going to be up to. I know when I was pregnant (all three times) I had no desire to even have my husband (ex now) around much less anyone else. I was tired, fat and not feeling at all like trying to get pretty for someone else's benefit. However, if you really want to meet someone to spend time with then make sure you pick carefully.

Since this happened so often tonight while reading through your posts I'll just say "To Everyone: HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA" I laughed a lot = )

Please don't think that my baby isn't my top priority because she is! I just get the lonely feeling at times. Not because I NEED a man in my life but only because I'm pregnant and single. Yes, I did it to myself and I regret the actions of that night BUT nothing I can do about it.

Also, believe me, I've seen enough "freaks" on myspace that are well interested in pregnant ladies...I think it's called a FETISH. --shudder-- these guys are icky! lol

The one thing I am thankful of is that now I'm going to be EXTRA picky because my baby is now involved with every decision I make and I'm ok with that. My red flag will be going up more often.

p.s. as for the headless shot heh I tried to post another picture next to it but it wouldn't work for some reason; it was wayyyy too big heh
p.p.s. thanks for the comment mommy2A&A = )