Okay, so after talking to a friend tonight online...I realized for myself that dating is the extent of what i want....or what i cam capable of handling at this present time....

Dating ...or I prefer to look at it instead as "outings" because I view the outing as an experience..getting to know someone, what they do, why they are into etc...I tend to make the event educational and interesting...for myself and maybe they do too...

although, with my post of "have you ever wondered"....and watching everyones post....while deep down inside of me, I would like to believe in the "magic" of "love"...

I don't...

I run like a bat out of **** if I come close to it, and I escape in work, or home stuff or even chatting on SFV...

While I know deep in my heart a man and a woman are not meant to live alone, they are meant to have companions, they are meant to touch and to be touched...and yet i read all the posts on SFV, and all I see is the abuse, the lies, the suffering of what one has gone through...either they parted through death, or through an affair....not getting along...whatever the reason is...it is too much of an adjustment.

I don't think I fear love, or I fear getting hurt, because i've gotten hurt a few times and it's almost a norm...but I think what bothers me most is the readjusting afterwards...the readjusting to first be together, and then the readjusting when they leave...

Perhaps it is true that you become what you expose yourself to the most...how strange that your outer world can become your inner world and your inner world can become your outter...all based on thought choices, and that leads to feelings...

Do I really want to have the headache of all that again?

Will I go out with men? Yes...most likely will not get past friendships though...I do go out to enjoy the company of individuals and no it is not sexually based or anything...sometimes I have fallen ...fallen for men that were not as serious as I was, or just didnt understand me the way i needed to be understood...it just seems to be all one big lie after another, and quite frankly I have no time in my day to play private investigator with these men LOL

There...I think I'm done.

Oh!~I hear ya on that one! Couldn't of said it better myself! LOL That's a good way to think of dates: 'outings', it lets the pressure off some.

Actually i'm not done...I spent about oh 10 years or so working on building a program...was hired in group homes working as a counsellor, started my business 7 years ago privately counselling/tutoring up until my breast cancer surgery....
Now that I am back into the swing of things...to help me out i partnered with a company called Frontier College...tonight I spent two hours, sharing counselling and literacy skills training from my program into theirs...and theirs into mine...the world I work with is in emotional pain....again more suffering, more loss, more grieving..and while i have always looked at this as an opportunity to make a difference, I am constantly exposed to broken up families on a daily basis...I guess it is a constant reminder of many things that I only want to date , not for sexual purposes...I prefer to call them outings .....anyway...it is what it is...

I think some people like myself are just set in their ways, and have become content with their life...like me..

and then......I keep thinking there is something missing....

Thanks KM

Maybe I am "too involved" emotionally in other people's situations...although I am starting to think the older you get teh more your set in your ways and the more difficult it gets...

Not that I want to be dating at this point in my life but I think it would be fun to have a nice no pressure "outing" with you.

Set in ways, yea as I push 37 (yikes, how did that happen???) I wonder how I could ever open up to someone again. Still, I feel like I have the same desire for life that I did in my early 20s. Time flies.

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Originally posted by Michail:
Not that I want to be dating at this point in my life but I think it would be fun to have a nice no pressure "outing" with you.

Set in ways, yea as I push 37 (yikes, how did that happen???) I wonder how I could ever open up to someone again. Still, I feel like I have the same desire for life that I did in my early 20s. Time flies.

I take it your a male????LOL

No pressure outings are fun...no strings attaced, no ***...just fun...school kids LOL

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Originally posted by Kayley's Mommy:

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Originally posted by Singleparentcoach:
Thanks KM

Maybe I am "too involved" emotionally in other people's situations...although I am starting to think the older you get teh more your set in your ways and the more difficult it gets...

ok, and the other reasons are

I will let you other reasons why we broke up before.

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Originally posted by Singleparentcoach:
Actually i'm not done...I spent about oh 10 years or so working on building a program...was hired in group homes working as a counsellor, started my business 7 years ago privately counselling/tutoring up until my breast cancer surgery....
Now that I am back into the swing of things...to help me out i partnered with a company called Frontier College...tonight I spent two hours, sharing counselling and literacy skills training from my program into theirs...and theirs into mine...the world I work with is in emotional pain....again more suffering, more loss, more grieving..and while i have always looked at this as an opportunity to make a difference, I am constantly exposed to broken up families on a daily basis...I guess it is a constant reminder of many things that I only want to date , not for sexual purposes...I prefer to call them outings .....anyway...it is what it is...

I think some people like myself are just set in their ways, and have become content with their life...like me..

well sure you are going to see suffering here, being a single parent means trying times. In most cases we come here because we have lost our friends to the two parent world. One thing I would look at though is the fact that we are a small percentage of the world.

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well sure you are going to see suffering here, being a single parent means trying times. In most cases we come here because we have lost our friends to the two parent world. One thing I would look at though is the fact that we are a small percentage of the world.

i enjoy being the small percentage of the world though

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Originally posted by Lurch:

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Originally posted by Singleparentcoach:
Actually i'm not done...I spent about oh 10 years or so working on building a program...was hired in group homes working as a counsellor, started my business 7 years ago privately counselling/tutoring up until my breast cancer surgery....
Now that I am back into the swing of things...to help me out i partnered with a company called Frontier College...tonight I spent two hours, sharing counselling and literacy skills training from my program into theirs...and theirs into mine...the world I work with is in emotional pain....again more suffering, more loss, more grieving..and while i have always looked at this as an opportunity to make a difference, I am constantly exposed to broken up families on a daily basis...I guess it is a constant reminder of many things that I only want to date , not for sexual purposes...I prefer to call them outings .....anyway...it is what it is...

I think some people like myself are just set in their ways, and have become content with their life...like me..

well sure you are going to see suffering here, being a single parent means trying times. In most cases we come here because we have lost our friends to the two parent world. One thing I would look at though is the fact that we are a small percentage of the world.

thats true...I see your point...

I'm new here, and Im a new single mom. But i can relate to alot of what youre sayin.

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Originally posted by Dallasblair82:

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well sure you are going to see suffering here, being a single parent means trying times. In most cases we come here because we have lost our friends to the two parent world. One thing I would look at though is the fact that we are a small percentage of the world.

i enjoy being the small percentage of the world though

Your boys are adorable.

Hi TwinMomTracy

WElcome to the forum....

hmmmm...drinking when stressed is not good..