I am a single mom of four- I am divorced seperated for 2 years now - stupid me got invovled with a next door neighbor - I was seeing him for 1 year and 8 months and I knew from the begining that he had commitment issues. eveyrhting was going well - I had NO plans for marrying him or moving in with him - we were enjoying each other - I never thought ahead- he would hang out with me and the kids - they kids love him - we went places- i met his family - then he decides he wants to tell nme he is not being responsible for hurting me and that he doe snot know what he wants - he wants to be friends+ - he thinks my feelings are greater that his and I need to control them. he use to call me in the morning to wake me and everynight to say goodnight and e-mail me every afternoon at work but it all stopped - and i miss it! he tells me he cares a great deal and he doe snot know what he wants! he want to continue what we have but he is not being responsible for hurting me! what is he trying to say???? I never pursued anything - he still wants to know what I am doing and all.. the worse part is he lives next door our houses are attached.. HELP ANYONE P{LEASE!!!!!

Well... I think feelings can change. I am sure you miss the calls, etc - that's natural... but, I don't think it's a good idea to think things will be the same, if he just wants to be friends. That usually means, he wants to date other people.

With him living next door, you will have to use your will-power to resist going over there, or reacting if you see him with someone else.

In my opinion, your first priority would be to make sure the kids do not get hurt by this. Whatever happens between you, since he's been part of your family, it will affect them.

If you can be just friends, without having a problem with it, I think that is great!

Good luck ... not an easy situation, and considering his proximity - an even tougher one!

That has to be a hard situation. This guy sounds like a real jerk. If he is like most guys that are like that, as soon as he sees you with someone else, he's not going to like it very much. They don't want you till they can't have you. Analyze the relationship just between the two of you, without involving the children. Maybe, (hopefully) you just might realize it's actually him that you don't want. Don't pass up any opportunities of fun and happiness. Good luck to you and your children.

thanks guys. things are very weird for me right now! I fell horrible about this - i think he is messing with my mind. I have to worry about my kids and me thats all and the res tof my life shall fall in place HOPEFULLY..lollol thanks so much