My husband left me and then died recently after doing it. We were never able to fully get past the are we together or apart stage and find a beginning or an end. That has really played emotional sabatage on myself and my children.

I have recently started dating a man and I feel very guilty to my ex. Its been almost two years in May since that has happened. How do I get over this and move on with out having the feeling like I am cheating?

Hi Fan, and :welcome:
All i can say it takes time which i'm sure you know already. Sorry i don't have any words of wisdom. I think we have a thread in here relating to widows and such maybe check it out. This place is great alot of really wonderful people so welcome and enjoy..

After my first husband died at age 30, it took me 5 years before I was ready to date.

We are all different so don't be hard on yourself. If you have found a good man, go for it.

Your situtation is different because you didn't get a chance to grieve the end of your marriage and then you had to deal with his death.

Going through both becoming a widow at an early age and now dealing with a divorce, I have the found divorce much more difficult.

Fan,
Im so very sorry for all that you have had to deal with. I know its hard enough on myself and the kids with the seperation and now the divorce. I cant imagine adding death into the process.

If you like this man you are dating, and he likes and respects you, he will give you sometime to get used to the dating scene.

Dating can be be and should be "FUN". Not stressful. Try to let go of that guilt, for you having nothing to feel guilty about.