Well me and my boyfriend have been together off and on for 3 years we've had problems with cheating, lies and everything. It was him more than it was me but anyways we working things out and there haven't been any problems lately, we've been getting along great were gaining each other's trust back. I don't suspect him of cheating on me but anyways I got a hold of his cell phone while he was sleeping and I have numbers that I just have the urge to call and ask questions. I done this before that's how I found out before a while back. Now that things are going alright I wondering if I should call thoes numbers or not and see what's really been going on. Is he doing stuff behind my back or has he been alright. He will never ever admit to anything so asking him is out of the question so I call the numbers or wait until I get suspicous again and call or until he makes me mad and call. Or should I just leave it alone and know that if anything does come up I have the numbers.

Is it all worth it?

"Once a cheater always a cheater" << such an old cliche .. and a good one.

Why put so much energy into this guy? Even if he isn't cheating on you right now, you'll always be suspecting; always double-checking; dialing numbers.. If you suspect a thing, chances are there's a reason. No reason on sticking around to find out.

There's no respect in this relationship.
Sorry girl,
jes

Hi AngelBaby,

You don't suspect him of cheating but you�re wondering what to do with the phone numbers?

One advantage of getting older is you realize you don�t have time (or the energy) of not saying what you really mean because it usually comes through anyway.

If trust were not still an issue, you wouldn�t even bring this up. Finding the numbers would be a non-issue. Sounds like you still have a good bit of work to do between the two of you. Just because you�re getting along doesn�t mean the issues have gone away � they will erupt again � promise. The issue isn�t what to do with the phone numbers. I think you both need some help to sort through this � please get some counseling.

Best wishes,
Larry

I agree with both Jes and LarryNCdad...best wishes and be strong Angelbaby.

Larry has a good point. You have some real issues to take care of before you can go forward. Put the numbers in the trash and work on the issues at hand. You reap what you sow.
I wish you the best.