I dont know how to finish the topic, if its how to trust, or accept, or get over my fear, or open up...either way, I need some advice.
My kids are now 3 1/2, and since I got pregnant with them, I havent slept with another man. Its not that I never wanted to, but i just was scared sh*tless (still am). For a long time I knew I just wasnt ready, and that was fine with me, I had my relationships, and told the guys upfront (usualy we were friends before anyway) and they always said they understood, but after a while I felt bad for not 'letting them in' or whatever, and broke it off, they generaly understood and life went on. Also I was very much wayy to young, and some may say I still am, but the man I have been close with for over a year, and dating for 7mths, I love him, and my heart feels like Iam ready, Ithink my heads telling me other wise. When i got pregnant, it was my first time, and we used a condom (aperantly not correctly) either way, I have been scared of getting that close to anyone ever since, because in my experiance, I get pregnant..my sister got preg while on the pill, so I know first hand nothing is 100%...But I also know it doesnt happen like that all the time, and chances are I wont get pregnant. Ive decided to go on the pill and use a condom, i figure two is better then one.
Anyway, I know my 'fears' are justified, but I cant live like this forever, I want to have that closeness with someone, my friends say just to do it, that if im careful I wont get pregnant again, and I know theyre probably right, but they also arnt 19 with two kids, they dont know all it takes, and as much as i love them, i dont want more anytime soon.
Has anyone else gone thru something like this? How did you get over it and trust that it'd all work out? Its such a big step, I wish someone could just say 'dont worry, if yoru careful you wont get pregannt again' and for it actualy to be right, but I know thats impossible...

Ditto.

You're still so young so don't rush things if you aren't ready.

I also know a guy that had a daughter after two vasectomies. He likes to attribute it to the fact he's Italian.

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Originally posted by Michail:
You're still so young so don't rush things if you aren't ready.

I also know a guy that had a daughter after two vasectomies. He likes to attribute it to the fact he's Italian.

You now know 2!! LOL and I'll second that vote!

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Originally posted by THOR:
....without sounding like Dr. Ruth.....take small steps first then when your ready take the big one....

You do realize she may NOT KNOW who Dr. Ruth is?

Maybe you should mention Dr. Phil. LOL

*giggle*

Is Dr. Ruth even still alive?

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Originally posted by astarte502:
*giggle*

Is Dr. Ruth even still alive?

Does that answer your question, Thordude?

Yes, and still touring for speaking engagements, apparently.

http://drruth.com/

who is D r Ruth

A renowned (?) $ex therapist. Was very popular in the 80's.

But ya know, I would be a $ex therapist too if I was face-height to everyone's belt buckle.

Wait.... I am.

I got pregnant the first time I did it. That's why I vowed to myself that the next time I will have ***, I will do it after we have recited marriage vows. That's the safest route one could take, and I dont think I'd take any more risks.

Dr. Ruth makes me giggle!!

I've seen another old lady on TV talking about *** recently. She always has *** toys lined up in front of her and gives instructions on their uses. LMAO! Anyone know who this woman is?

I've seen some "Talk *** With Sue Johanssen" show on the on-screen tv guide, but never watched it. That could be her. No idea.

My mom (don't ask, I don't even wanna know) told me there's this show on Lifetime called "Sunday Night *** Show" a call-in show with a relationship therapist that was really funny. Never wanted to check that one out either. I figure, if it can't be learned by trial and error, you're doing it wrong to begin with.

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I've seen some "Talk *** With Sue Johanssen" show on the on-screen tv guide, but never watched it. That could be her. No idea.

Yep! I think this is her. I've watched this only for a few minutes of my life and I have to say that she has destroyed my *** drive for life. LOL There is nothing more disgusting than watching a wrinkled ex-nun handle a vibrator.