...with all of your helpful inputs and sharing your feelings, I thought I would return the favor.

I'm a single man, been married, divorced, and currently dating a single mom.

Now, my proposition is, if there are any questions or scenerios that you single moms might have and are looking for point of views, fears, joys, expectations, wants and needs, etc...ask away. I will answer as honestly as I can.

Just be forewarned, I'm so not your "average guy", as you get to know me, you might see why if you choose so...hopefully I can keep up.

OK..

When you first learn that a single woman has a child or children do you automatically assume that she is looking for a father for her kid/s? Have you heard other single guys say this?

Could question Thinker i was just reading a post something similar to this.

I've a question too: When you started dating your girlfriend how did she let you into her kids life and did you think she was pushy about it or was it gradual?

Would you ever feel self conscious or embarrassed about telling friends/family that you were dating a single mom because you were worred about their reaction?

Will you ever really be ok knowing that there is a child in your life that was the result of your new squeeze's life with someone else?

Will you be ok being number 2 for awhile until things get serious enough to share the number one spot?

Are you ok with not having 100% of your girlfriend's attention? Ever?

I have lots of these kinds of questions! Ha ha ha...

I have a question: I am looking for a single dad to date, for some reason I just think that this would be better. Do single dads look for single moms to date?

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Originally posted by THINKER:
[qb] OK..

When you first learn that a single woman has a child or children do you automatically assume that she is looking for a father for her kid/s? Have you heard other single guys say this? [/qb]

No, honestly, my first thought is, how much emotional baggage she has. Then I wonder if she's ready to date, if she has her priorities straight, and most of all...I wonder how good of a mom she is.

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Originally posted by Rachel_M_R:
[qb] Could question Thinker i was just reading a post something similar to this.

I've a question too: When you started dating your girlfriend how did she let you into her kids life and did you think she was pushy about it or was it gradual? [/qb]

Well, funny you ask, I have not seen her daughter up until yesterday, I was driving home from shopping for a new vehicle and we were talking on the phone. She was in the mood for a coffee, so I stopped by Dunkin Donuts, picked her up a coffee and dropped it off to her. I was only there for a few minutes. One of the reasons why I'm still dating her is because she does not want me to around her daughter until we both know that there is real potential with eachother, I really respect her for that.

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Originally posted by TinkerbellNC:
[qb] Would you ever feel self conscious or embarrassed about telling friends/family that you were dating a single mom because you were worred about their reaction?

Will you ever really be ok knowing that there is a child in your life that was the result of your new squeeze's life with someone else?

Will you be ok being number 2 for awhile until things get serious enough to share the number one spot?

Are you ok with not having 100% of your girlfriend's attention? Ever?

I have lots of these kinds of questions! Ha ha ha... [/qb]

To answer your first question, no, mostly because I tend to assume that her ex was an ***, like most guys are. I believe mistakes or misjudgements are ok, as long as you learn from them. I also really don't care what other people think. I also try not to prejudge anyone.

2nd Q- Ofcourse I am, I think that's the way it should be, children should always come first. It's a parent's duty to raise his/her child first, work at making that child a well rounded person and to make sure that child feels loved and can always count on someone. The only thing I worry about her ex, is how his reaction will be if things get serious with me and her. Will he try and sabatoge our relationship through his daughter, will he try to approach me in a not so friendly manner? Everyone has a past, past lovers, ex-wives, ex-husbands, etc...it's her responsibility to make me feel secure as well as it is mine to make her feel secure in our relationship.

3rd Q - I have no problem with that, I'm a big boy lol. I do worry about adding any pressure to her whatsoever, I know she has alot on her plate, I don't need to add anymore. If things get serious, I would hope that she would let me carry some of the burden of helping her out, so she doesn't feel overwhelmed or feel that she has to do everything because she is not my biological child and let me be a friend to her daughter and to her.

TinkerbellNC, don't worry, ask as many questions as you like, I will try to answer as often as I can.

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Originally posted by Shelby's Mommy:
[qb] I have a question: I am looking for a single dad to date, for some reason I just think that this would be better. Do single dads look for single moms to date? [/qb]

Sorry Shelby's Mommy, I cannot answer that, I'm not a single dad.

Hi scorpian_ava,

Mind if I step up to plate and pinch hit?


"I have a question: I am looking for a single dad to date, for some reason I just think that this would be better. Do single dads look for single moms to date?" - Shelby's Mommy

As a man, I look for single women. As a father, motherhood is an asset but not a requirement. For single fathers, a single mother will certainly have common interests and concerns and there are advantages to having commitments outside the relationship. Like playground chats and amusement park trips. Sorta kid oriented non-dates. For me, most women in my age range(don't go there girls and you know who you are) happen to be single mothers.

So I guess my answer is no in that I don't seek single moms.

Respects to you scorpian. I've kept up and you are a man of honor.

Oh and TinkerbellNC, one of your questions, I just thought of something...I'm divorced, and have a nephew from my ex-wife's sister, which we are very close, she's a very close friend to me til this day and I love my nephew so much!!! So anyone I get involved with, will have to deal with that portion of my past, I will never abandon my nephew, not for anyone....just thought I'd share

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Originally posted by jaydsdad:
[qb] Hi scorpian_ava,

Mind if I step up to plate and pinch hit?


"I have a question: I am looking for a single dad to date, for some reason I just think that this would be better. Do single dads look for single moms to date?" - Shelby's Mommy

As a man, I look for single women. As a father, motherhood is an asset but not a requirement. For single fathers, a single mother will certainly have common interests and concerns and there are advantages to having commitments outside the relationship. Like playground chats and amusement park trips. Sorta kid oriented non-dates. For me, most women in my age range(don't go there girls and you know who you are) happen to be single mothers.

So I guess my answer is no in that I don't seek single moms.

Respects to you scorpian. I've kept up and you are a man of honor. [/qb]

jaydsdad...please join on is whenever you want.
Hehehe, kid oriented dates, I love 'em lol, hey I'm a huge kid, and like to play like one. Nieces and nephews are great, gives me an excuse as to why I'm going the theater to watch a Disney movie lol.

Hey Jaydsdad, thank you for your very nice compliment...someone hand me a pin so I can deflate my head lol.