i don't understand men....my boyfriend still does not want the baby that i am carrying ..i am 5 months and i would of thought he would be over it by now but he is not....nothing i do or say changes his mind ....we have been going to counseling but that just made it worst because the couselor told him it was okay for him to feel that way.....am i the only one who thinks this is wrong...how can you not want something that is created from you?....especially another life...i really don't need him for anything but it wouldn't be fair to my baby if he doesn't know his dad...or would it?....the funny thing about the whole situation is that he claims he is inlove with me and cares about me but he does not want to be a father...he doesn't even want to mention the baby when we are together..no baby names or anything..i am alone in this...is it me or is that crazy?.....he wants it to be like it used to be with just me and him but i remind him and tell him those days are over.....how can i be with a man that doesn't want his own child?.....i thought he would change by now but its been four months and he is still disgustingly against the baby...this is really bringing me down and as much as i try not to think about it the worst my emotions get...can someone give me advice on what to do?

frist welcome to our group. when you find out there going be a father. it scares them, afaid of being more tied down and more responabitys and one to suport and fed , being a good father ect. others forget about this because there so excited to be afather and it hits them later. the big thing they want it to be the same just you and him, i hear this alot this is not uncommom. he really might want the baby but afraid of allthis going on in his mind, right now. how old are you too?

Ok, for me it is not ok to feel that way. if the world worked like councellors think we would all be in a mess, oui. this is going to be a nice excuse for him.

This is wrong and for the sake of you and the unborn child I would consider seperation myself.hugs Gail :welcome:

The only thing that you can do right now is look after yourself. You can�t change where he is at right now, he needs to sort that out himself. You need to take good care of your baby and at 5 months that means taking good care of yourself! I know that it is really hard but carrying your first baby is an amazing time and I know how hard your situation is as I have been there but I tried to enjoy all those changes and not let the general chaos I was facing take away from that.
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thank you all for the quick response...he's going to be 30! and i'm 27....trying to keep a positive attitude...thanks

Hey sweetmamma... welcome to sfv I haven't posted anything here for quite some time, but every once in awhile I read up on what everyone's been up to and tonite I came across your post and decided to comment...

But first, how long were the two of you together before you got pregnant? And does he have any other kids from prior relationships or marriages?