Although I am around people all day (at work) I feel like no-one else is in the same boat I am. I live in a very "suburban neighborhood" where everyone is married. I literally do not know of one single mom or dad in my area. I want to keep a positive attitude and be proactive to solve this problem of mine.

I would really like to meet some other single parents. My daughter is 13 and spends a lot of time with her friends on the weekends. I often find myself without anything to do and I have no real "support system" in Illinois. I do have plenty of friends to talk to on the phone but everyone else either lives in different cities or is "coupled". Does anyone else just want to get out and go have some "adult fun"? I feel like I spend too much time alone and honestly I am craving some "me" time.

If anyone is interested in getting out, let me know. Of if you have any good ideas on how I could meet some people, let me know.

I've read your post 2 times now. Welcome to the site, and let me just say - I wish I knew the answer. Your post is so very similar to so many that I've seen on here. I think that question brings a lot of us online searching for single parenting support. The problem is, we already get into debt with daycare, feel guilty leaving the kids at night, don't have friends that want to hang out with a single mom and simply - don't have enough single parents in our areas to co-op with. Even if I did find a single mom or dad in my area - I'd probably want to go out and hang out with them!

I wish I could help. I wish that IL wasn't just too far to drive. I can only say, that I truly understand.

Single Parenting Chat room:
http://singleparentsnetwork.com/voicechat.html

I relate to that more than I would like to admit. There are married couples w/babies on both sides of me. I know several single moms that I met through his daycare when he was in it, school functions and now Tae Kwon Do. I am just now starting to feel like I'm not alone.

With that said, I haven't had a night out since my birthday in July and before that was last December. I have gone from going out at least 2 times a week to going out maybe 2 times a year. I get really depressed about the lack of me time too. I think it is something we all deal with. If you are sitting there alone on any given night, try checking out the chat room. There is almost always people in there having fun. It is clean fun since only members of this site are allowed in. If you see that no one is in there, post a thread inviting people to join you. We are usually all up for good fun and good friends.

Welcome to the site and we look forward to getting to know you better! We are there for you all over the world, so there is no reason to feel alone any more.

Today, I am feeling warm, sexy, and energetic. I would love to go out with some friends and just let my hair down.... Unfortunately, friends like CarlaA are so far away, and the majority of the ones close are married, newly married, or the boyfriend isn't inclined to have his gfriend hang up with a single woman.....

I need some me time this weekend.....

I can relate. My mom called last night, and invited my daughter over to spend the night tonight. I came into work today, and all morning, I have been trying to think of someone to go out with tonight.... my (2) friends are both working... and.... I have nobody to go out with........... uuuuuuugggggggggghhhhhhhhhh

I'm pitiful, I know, but I just went to the grocery store for a salad. Mind you, I'm in downtown Indianapolis going to the "business man's lunch place." I primped myself all up just to get a salad and possibly flirt a little. How sad is that. Well, it made me feel good to know that I still have it. I even caught a whistle - but it was a homeless guy outside of the place. Silly how sometimes a little attention will calm the need to "get out."

I understand ladies. It would be nice to get out and have a good time with the girls. Problem is I don't know too many people that are not married or hooked up and doesn't like to go out without the other one.

I went to buy a car last week, thought the guy who owned the dealership was goodlooking, and had alot going for him. So.. when the desperate need for adult companionship took over my brain.... I sent him a card asking him out.... ughh.. now I am painfully waiting a response.. my sister was teasing me.. she said, your living in the 1800s.. writing him a letter asking him out. He's virtually a stranger... one that I felt comfortable with.. but, for petes sake, he was selling me a car.. he had to be nice to me.... Its just been so long, I dont know what to do. I wanted to tell him I was interested. My sister said, why didnt you just fax him.. ha ha ha..

well, he prob will not call.. but, I won't stop there.. I am going to keep asking people out until someone says yes... ha ha ha.

I was invited out this weekend w/another single mom. Problem is I don't have a sitter. My parents are on vacation and it is really too late to ask anyone else. Even when the opportunity presents itself, sometimes you just can't go. I just hope she has made other arrangements for her son. I would be even more bummed if I had to watch him for her to go out.

Be careful with Car salesmen...mine got me the car (that I ultimately gave back when I found out about the second thing he gave me) and my son.

Well, La Grange is about a 1/2 hour from me in Schaumburg but feel free to pm me and talk and maybe see if we can get together. I would so love to get out of my apartment!!! My kids are young (2 1/2 yrs and 8 months) and my mom will babysit anytime I ask her to. I'm a little limited in what I can do right now as I have a disc injury going on but going anywhere right now would do me a world of good...lol!! Most of the people I know don't have any kids at all so they don't really understand that I can't just go out whenever. Seriously, get a hold of me and we'll talk.

Just rolled in from work which is Rolling Meadows MamaSteph....very cool. I'm in your neck of the woods 4 to 5 days a week. You all made me feel so much better....I know it's all going to be OK....it's just those down moments when I find myself needing to reach out and guess what, I didn't feel so alone after reading all your responses. It helps to know there are others out there in the same situation. It's hard sometimes not to think "what is wrong with me"....thanks for reminding me that it's not me and that something would be wrong with me if I didn't have my moments of wanting companionship. This is my healing time and even though it feels like too much time alone, at age 36, I need to remember this time will allow me to get into a healthy relationship one day.

P.S. You all rock!

Amy,

You rock too!!! We all have moments of self-doubt. That is why this board is such a God-sent. We all know what that is like and it does help to know that we aren't alone. I'm glad you feel better and we want to hear more from you! Take care!

I too would love to get out with other adults. All of my friends are married and don't go out much. I live in Lombard, and would actually like to get together with other people. If anyone is interested, you can e-mail me directly at terripawl@hotmail.com.

amy

I live in huntley and i am not sure how far lagrange is from me but i will just about drive anywhere to get out and meet new people. i have a 5 yr old and a 2 yrs old and my weekends are usually pretty flexible. so pm me if you would like and we could talk. I know exactly where you are coming from and often feel the same way.