I have been fortunate enough in the past to have most weekends free to pursue relationships or just meet people. In the near future, that will change and I will have significatly less time to myself. For the time being, I'm not dating and will probably continue with that decision for a little while longer. However, when/if I finally get ready to date, how will that work? I'm one of those "nazi" moms who refuse to mesh my social life and home life. In other words, my children never meet anyone that I'm seeing. I don't know any men that are willing to work around children that often. Does this mean I'm destined to be single until my children are grown? Not a terrible life, but not what I had in mind.

I hope it doesn't mean that because that's how I amLOL

In fact, I'm going back to Mass this weekend and planning to sleep at my neighbors (somebody I have been kind of seeing but not too seriously) and I had to literally tell my ex not to drive the girls by the old house Friday night or Sat morning because my van will be across the street. (Yes, he drives them by the old house everytime he has them............)

well, as mine have hit elder teens I find myself more and more alone on the weeks ends, usually they stay with friends. So there maybe some hope in the near future if you wish to wait that long.

My youngest is 3. I've got years and years left before that scenario. Not that I mind being able to spend more time with the kids...just worried that once they're gone, I'll be out of the game so long that I'll be un-date-able

lol, when does"undatable" occure? I didn't know there was a threashold, maybe I better do some research, I maybe too old allready that certainly would explain a few things.

I just know myself and how set in my ways I get...when my youngest is 18, I'll be 45 and used to doing things my way. A stubborn woman plus 15 years to perfect it doesn't seem like something anyone will want to deal with. LOL

hmmm, lol, well my youngest will be 18, I will be 51. hmm, my grand dad died at 97, my granda ma is still alive at allmost a hundred, my dad is in his 70's and is still moving around like a man 20 years younger. I figure I got one or two good years in me left.

It's immeasurably easier for men to date in their 40's and 50's than it is for women. Lucky you. LOL

ok, how you figure that, if a man is dating in his 40-50, shouldn't he be dating someone his age for the most part +/-, or do you think they should be dating someone in there 20's?

What they *should* be doing and what is happening in reality are two very different things. My father is 57 years old and still dating women anywhere from my age to 40. Nobody his age is attractive to him and the younger women are attracted to him because he still looks great. I hear it over and over from his friends. Just look around...it's pretty common. The women of the same age are left with a very limited dating pool.

so you are saying I should be looking for someone 20 years younger, lol. For some reason I can't picture myself with a 27 year old.

No, I said *should* and what usually ends up happening are different things.

Well there is something to be said for looking younger I suppose. People do age different, my father and ex father in law where about a month apart, my ex father inlaw look like my dads dad.

Well Paul, you are lucky to have such good gene's!

But I'm with you Plucky....

"It's immeasurably easier for men to date in their 40's and 50's than it is for women. Lucky you."

I am 33 and IF I ever do get back into the dating world I am worried that i'll be "considered" over the hill!

well poo, wish it was easy as you guys say it is. I suppose it goes with the fact that women are thinking they are over the hill in their 30's.