I've been seeing someone for the past 6 months. He's an incredible guy and he's great with my 2 year old daughter. But he says he is still unsure of whether he can accept my situation. I understand it's hard jumping into a relationship with someone who has a child...but I'm so unsure of whether I should let my guard down with this guy in fear of getting hurt. I really care about him and I don't know how long I should wait for him to make up his mind. Any advice or anyone in a similar situation?

Hi Amber, I can certainly relate to your situation, it was about the same for me last year, with the difference, that he first met my kid after six months of our going out together, after that, it took him nearly six months to adjust, then he asked me to go leave together...
The only advice I can give you, it's to give him some time and stop being too concentrated on his feelings, I used o prevent myself from opening up for fear of getting hurt, in case it wouldn't get serious, but it's completley useless,it hurts more to hide your feelings...
Maybe it would be wise not to get him too much involved in your child's life right now, to protect your kid
BEST OF LUCK!

I agree. Go with your insticts but, don't have him get involved with your kid until you know for sure. I ended up getting involved with someone who got very attached to my youngest daughter. She was around three, they did everything together, she loved him as her own father. Sad part,
him and I went our separate ways and she was devastated. It took her a VERY long time to get over him, so now I am very careful. I have been seeing someone for almost a year and a half but, he is a lot younger than I am, so I don't know if our relationship will ever go anywhere. My girls love him and visa versa but, he is only involved in their lives on a casual basis. Well good luck to you!

Hi Hutch, I'm sorry to hear that,
that is my main fear, right now, my kid has the same kind of relationship with my boyfriend, but I'm not too sure about us now... and although I've waited a while to introduce him to my kid, I fear I haven't waited long enough
Now my kid treats him like he was his own daddy...
He did ask me to go live together, but I'm not ready, or maybe not too sure about us right now...
It's really hard dating when you are a single mum, u have to deal with your own feelings: mostly love and fear and try and protect your kid from getting hurt again...

Yes, it is just so hard sometimes. We are always being torn between protecting our children/ having a life of our own? My whole family was devastated when he walked out on us. I can't begin to tell you how long it took all of us to move on. It has been a couple of years now, but we all still think about it, just on a different level. Everything happens for a reason though, and I am glad it happened then, than longer down the road.

I don't think there ever is a perfect time to introduce your child. You can't know for SURE because nothing is certain in life, especially relationships. I have tried to take things slowly, but at some point you have to involve your child just to see how much your partner is willing to handle. I mean, if they never see the reality, then they (and you) won't know if they can handle it.
I am in a similar situation. My boyfriend just began spending time with my son about two months ago. Ever since then, his stress level about the relationship has increased. Now, he is "freaking out" because he doesn't know if he can handle it. I spent the first part of the relationship getting very attached to him, and I thought we had built a good foundation. Unfortunately, that all may be over now because he doesn't know if he can handle the family part. So it is a very tough decision....I don't think there are any "cut and dried" answers to when or how to involve children. I guess it's just a matter of being willing to risk your heart. It's better than risking your child's heart.