I been with this guy 5 years, and needless to say i don't feel happy, i am otherwised divorced, who was a cheat, and my boyfriend, doesn't believe in that is the only good thing i can say, its like this, he agrues his family and friends are always right and i'm wrong, which sometimes is probably true, BUT give me a break, he loves to party, and have a good time, which is how we met, but i've grown, work, kids, taking care of my home, he on the other hand, yells most of the time, calls the kids names, (which is a sure way to start a fight) i work 3rd shift, and seems like i would be able to lay down, but i can't he is just soooo tired, (as you know he works HARDER than anyone else). You know don't get me wrong sometimes and somethings are good...but its like the old story, when its good,,,its good and when its bad watch out///we've had a few physical fights and i won't say i'm innocent, becouse i do tend to fight back, if i didn't i wouldn't care about myself, make any sense?I have 3 beautiful boys, 1 with my ex and 2 with the current boyfriend, he very seldom pays attention to any of them, and if he does its a short time, but let a buddy call and he's off with a new found energy...he spent 10 months in jail, when i was pregnant with out last child, which he didn't even see until he was 6 months old, declaring things would be different, he was put on 4 year probation ,,,which of course he has screwed up, hasn't reported in 6 months, so thats just a waiting game...and i wait for the sheriff to pull in,,,and i can't believe it hasn't happened yet, any advice, would help, not that i can say i'll do it, but tell me if any of this is making sense?? thanks

It is. You need to leave him. period. But judging from your post, you already know this. Dont wait for the sherrif to come, leave before they can. Or call them yourself. Think of them as a free exterminator. And there's nothing wrong with fighting back, its the first hit thats the problem.

Respberry,

I am dealing with the same thing. Only my now ex-was picked up for not reporting and I am left to explain to my little girl that daddy has a problem and cannot be with us right now. Believe me, I know the stress which you are probably feeling everytime you hear a car pullup or or a knock on the door. He caused this mess and we feel like we are the ones on probation and reporting. Just try to prepare yourself for the worst so it does not hit you like a ton of bricks. Talk to family/friends and let them know what is going on so you don't feel so isolated in your situation. It will come to an end eventually. ...take care