I am hanging on to a life that doesn't want me anymore. My boyfriend, and the father of my 18 month old baby, is going to leave me. My heart is broken, but I am not sure if it is because I really still want him or because I don't want my life to change; we were together for four years. Does that make sense? I am only 16, and I am terrified that I will never find the love of my life. Some say that there are really no men who would even bother marrying a woman with a child. They say that they are "few and far apart". Is this true? I am a good mom, I am an excellent student, I am a caring person, but I am afraid that there is no hope for finding a companion.

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No that is a load of crap that nobody will want you because you have a child. My daughter is almost 8 and I have had 4 boyfriends since I broke up with her father when she was not quite 2 months old. I have a great boyfriend now who also has a child of his own! Do not worry someone who is better for you will come along. They did for me. He is not only the best boyfriend but he is also one of my best friends. I can tell him anyhting and we talk about absolutely everything.

I did the same thing, dated the father of my 2 boys for 4 years. I stayed so long because I was in love with the person I thought he was, not the person he really was. I ignored a lot of the signs that showed what kind of person he really was. I also was afraid to be alone. Thought that I wouldn't ever find anyone else to want me when I had children. I eventually got out. And now, after a year of being without him, I'm happier than I ever was and realize that it wasn't a healthy relationship. I know you say your heart is broken. It will mend, I promise. Your baby will help you get over him. Plus, you are young. You have many years to find the love of your life. Right now, you should just concentrate on you and your baby and forget about guys for now. Love yourself and your baby and someday, someone is going to see how full of love and life you are and they will love you too. Just have some patience.

Honey, you're bruised not broken. Always remember that. Like the above post said, your heart will mend. And for the record, you're 16 with a lot of years ahead of you, this is a small bump in the road, not making light of your four years that you invested with your boyfriend. Don't ever believe that no man will not want you because you're a parent. Nonsenssssssssssssssssse.... I'm dating someone who has 3 children, and trust me, we had the talk about him still dating me if he weren't a single father.......He answered quickly, "heck no", and that he wished he'd have met, dated, and married me years ago......

You'll be just fine...TRUST....

Peace to you!!!

When one door closes, another opens. That's my advice for the day. The trick is to stop looking back at that closed door and look forward to one opening.

scared hurt and many other things but time will heal all pain. You are young and have a child that will love you forever. Thats alot of love. One day all will fall in place and you will be so happy you will forget about the now. Hold your head up.