Well all of you that have been around know about the issues w/ my kids Dad ! The kids and I moved back to Baltimore a couple weeks ago from being with my parents in Virginia. I moved back 1. because the job market is terrible, but most of all because I thought that me taking the kids out of state they wouldnt have had a close relationship with their Dad. So , I got a 2 bedroom house in Baltimore, decided to give it one more try with him and I to see if US living together would solve some of the issues.. .. Well guess what Folks, it didnt solve a dang gone thing ! It seems to have made it worse ! I do LOVE him terribly, but I dont feel that this what my life was to be like ! I am to be HAPPY and right now at this moment I am HONESLTY MISERABLE !I come home from being gone for almost 13 hours, to him laying on the couch sleeping or watching TV, asking whats for dinner and all that B/S ! I cant keep up with HIM, working 50 hours a week, the kids and ALL the duties of having a house ! I dont have to be at work til 9 and I am up and out the door by 6:30 to make sure that he gets to work at 7 ! Is that NOT ENOUGH for him ? ? Then to top it off EVERYTIME we get into a fight he says " go ahead Amanda kick me out tell me to leave ! " Why cant he leave on his own , why do I have to tell him to leave ? If he isnt happy why wont he leave ? He has yet to bring any of his PERSONAL things into the house, he has a couple of clothes there but only for work . . .Is it just me or am I being taken for a ride here ? ? PLEASE I NEED SOME ADVICE ON WHAT TO DO ! !

I would kick him to the curb. In my honest opinion I think you are being taken for a ride he is just trying to get as much as he can from you this getting up and leaving 2.5 hours early so he can get to work on time is insane he is just using you and thart isn't right. Tell him to leave and not let the da*mn door hit him on the way out. Or use my 9 year olds favorite saying "Get to Stepping & Make sure it is in the opposite direction" LOL


Big Hugs Kim

Thanks KIM !

kick him to the curb.You deserve so much more!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Things went BETTER this weekend !

oh amanda I don't know...sounds bad to me but I can't say anything because I held on to one for far too long myself...but there are obviously red flags there, and only you know what's best. Hope it works out the way it's supposed to, whatever that is! Glad your weekend went better though
--Mel

UPDATE !
Well this week has been GREAT ! Still a little more issues to work out, but they WILL come together w/time !
The kids are happy, we are going to start counseling next week, in which he initiated it ! So he is starting off in the right direction,so we will see if he will continue in the right direction. WISH ME LUCK !

Everything is crossed for you and my thoughts and prayers are with you.

Yes, fingers, toes and eyes crossed for you.

THANKS GUYS YOU ARE THE BEST :thanks:

you and your teddy bear are welcome

Are you making FUN of my teddy B ? ?
I have 30 minutes til it is quitting time !
Gotta rush home, pick up kids, get them bathed and then get them their ready togo with my Mom and Dad for the WHOLE WEEKEND !~
What will I do with all this spare time ? ?

enjoy enjoy! I have three under the age of nine and it's very rare that I a child free weekend!

Enjoy it Amanda you have earned it.

Well the weekend would have been nice. We got some really back news on Saturday ! Freddys father will not be with us much longer. I tried so hard to hold it together but couldnt ! So now he is going to be with us Everyday. Freddy wants the kids to spend as much time as possible w/him, in the little time that he has left. I am a little worried about this though . . . Is it a good idea to have the kids get close to him and then in a couple months , he when he passes they will be devistated ? ? I guess I could just use a little advice on this ? I know that they will be upset but I dont want to "set" them up for this ? ? ?

HELP

~Amanda