I having a problem with my ex and its been irritating me from the beginning of our relationship. I'm not sure if im wrong or if he is.

I work with my boyfriend and his ex also works with us as well. (shes not really an exgirlfriend, more of an ex"fling" since they were just talking and just kissed once). She quit before i began working there and decided to come back when she found out we were dating. As soon as she found out we were talking she decided to start calling him.. he told her that he is dating me. She seemed ok with it.. she said that shes happy that hes happy and that she wishes us the best. Thats when she decided to get her job back. At this point i didnt have a problem with her. But two weeks later he shows me a text message she sent him saying that she really misses him. Thats when i started to dislike her. She knew we were dating but yet she kept pursueing him. Then she began to give me dirty, childish looks everytime i saw her and started to tell people that im jealous of her. She then asked to be moved into my boyfriends department. So everyday i have to see them working together and its hard because i know how badly she wants him and i know shes gonna do anything to succeed. But at the same time i know hes commited to me, and i know he doesnt want to date her. So really i shouldnt let this bother me, but it still does. Whenever i bring this issue up, my bf tells me that "its all in my head" and that "im the one whos making the problem". But i dont understand how.. i mean i dont think i did anything. Am i being stupid? What should i do to fix this problem?

My thought would be to ignore her childish behaviour and whatever you do don't stoop to her level. Obviously it's not going to be easy to see her with your BF but you say you trust his comitment to you so that shouldn't be an issue. I definalty do not think you are stupid. Jelousy is a hard thing to deal with and It will take some strength but in the end you will be better off ignoring her and concentrating on your relationship and your life.

I think that I am a bit confused...is he your boyfriend, or your ex?

If you are currently seeing each other then it would be understandable if you are jealous, but if you know that he is commited to you then you should not have anything to worry about. If you keep accusing him and there is nothing going on then it may just push him into her open arms...

But if he is your ex then personaly I think that you need to move on, but that is just my opinion...and sometimes easier said then done.

And just a suggestion (without trying to sound rude) it might be better in the future not to date your co-workers...

Morgan,
I think you have every reason to be upset. And your boyfriend's non-chalant attitude only fuels the jealousy. Your boyfriend needs to make it very clear to her that he is totally unavailable. The burden of getting rid of her should be on his shoulders. If you are committed to your releationship, you work hard to get rid of anything that can detract from that releationship.

Mashell.. hes my boyfriend..we're actually getting married in a few months.

The thing is that i have ignored her for 7 months now... but it hasnt stopped. So its pretty much ridiculous at this point. He talked to her today and let her know that she needs to stop or else shes out of his department. He doesnt really want to take her out of his department just because shes the only help he has right now, but if it comes down to it he will. If she continues this then ill confront her. I know that hes mine and wants noone else.. but its soo annoying and frustrating to have this girl constantly nagging and interupting us.

it sounds to me that your BF is taking an active role in trying to get this girl outta your hair. So I guess really all you can do is hope it works out. Goodluck.

Thanks.... so i think my problem is solved.. my BF is talking to the store director on monday to have her removed from his department. Sooo my problem is gone (finally).

GREAT! Hope that everything turns out good

Mashell ... not to post off topic, but that is an absolutely beautiful pic of your girls! I luv it!

Thx Inni Just got them yesterday...supposed to be one of those "free" photography sessions that actualy cost $20.00 up front and then still end up walking out $150.00 in the hole....choke..choke..choke
(but I just couldn't leave there without them)

Oh, do I know those hidden costs well. They really get cha when they come out so adorable.. you can't resist!! Well worth it in the end... cuz it's just money, but you'll have the memories forever.