I guess I've already told you guys that there were three men who asked me out but it took some time for them to follow up on their dates, which had me wondering why. Now that they have followed up on their dates, I find myself the one who's been postponing them...

I was supposed to have coffee with the doctor over the weekend but I didnt confirm so it was postponed. Then I remember I'm also supposed to meet up with a guy friend two weeks ago, which I also postponed because I chose to go shopping instead. LOL... and now I was supposed to meet up with this bone marrow guy but I postponed it again because I had an appointment at the gym.

Now I'm beginning to wonder why I keep on doing these things. I'm not sure if I am afraid of going out... because these men have been my friends for years (two of them I've known for more than 10 years, the other, I've known since I was six years old) and these are just friendly dates where we're just supposed to catch up with each other, so I know there's nothing to be afraid of. Or maybe I'm not just interested in dates anymore, even friendly ones. I'd rather go shopping or go to the gym than go on a date.

So does this mean I'm not ready to date yet? Or I just completely lost interest?

Anyway, just in a reflective mood tonight LOL

If they are just friends, I think you're not interested in socializing...careful...could be sign of a depression...or mama blues, or whatever....
you should have gone out at least with one of them.

Hmmmm... let's just say they're "friends with potential" LMAO At one time or another in my life, they have expressed interest in me. two of them, I had some "benefits" with in the past, but not so much benefits, if you know what I mean.

And yeah, Ive been going out and socializing at least once a week, mostly with female friends... I've also gone out with male friends but it was always in a group, not one-on-one.

I dont know, when it comes to a one-on-one get-together with a male friend, it's just that I find myself wanting to do other things other than meet up with them.

It could be that you're just not ready yet. You see the possibility of it turning to something more serious, and you're not yet ready to consider getting yourself into that kind of emotional (and time) committment.

Dawn, i'm the same way. I have two "pending" dates right now. Both are waiting for me to tell them a day that is good for me and i'm just not feeling up to any of it. I'm on vacation this week and just hanging out at home for the most part. I could easily find a sitter one of these days, but i'd just rather do my own thing around the house and with Jewel. I don't FEEL like getting all dolled up and putting on my flirty personality. I suppose I may feel differently if these were old friends that I could just meet in my jeans and a sweatshirt and have a comfortable conversation with. I just don't have the desire or energy to persue someone new. I get lonely and I want a man in my life, but I want it to advance to the comfort zone immediately. I just don't feel like going through the beginning stages of a relationship. The wondering and waiting...

Yeah I guess it's the effort that has to be put on the date... But the thing is, these are my friends for decades now, and yes, I'll be meeting them up in comfy shirts and jeans and I know I will just be myself.

I dont know whats with me, maybe I'm just lazy. Or maybe what Tiff said, maybe I'm not ready to face the possibility of another emotional entanglement. Besides, I dont feel the need for a man in my life right now.

Oh my..... sounds like you're playing hard to get Dawn.

LMAO Tess!! Where have you been lady? I need someone with unusual wisdom as yours to tell me these things! LOL

Ok so I went on that date with the bone marrow guy. But I begged off the cholesterol so we went to an italian resto instead, and afterwards we had coffee (without the quotes ok??).

It was during coffee that the conversation turned to business opportunities. Ok now I realize I have a potential partner here... in business that is LOL

well at least it was productive. we now have plans to put up training programs and the like.

I guess if all my other dates would suggest business opportunities for me then I'll go on all of them LOL... I need to find more ideas on how I can earn money

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Originally posted by Dawn Butterfly:
Hmmmm... let's just say they're "friends with potential" LMAO At one time or another in my life, they have expressed interest in me. two of them, I had some "benefits" with in the past, but not so much benefits, if you know what I mean.

And yeah, Ive been going out and socializing at least once a week, mostly with female friends... I've also gone out with male friends but it was always in a group, not one-on-one.

I dont know, when it comes to a one-on-one get-together with a male friend, it's just that I find myself wanting to do other things other than meet up with them.

Maybe you are just scared that it could possibly turn into something more than a "friend" date. Even though it may seem innocent to you, the fact that you know they are interested in maybe something more could be what you are focusing on. Maybe you aren't ready for that, so you keep avoiding being put in the situation.

I think she knows she is not "interested" in them or they are not exciting enough...cause if she really was...she would be getting ready to go out..LOL

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Originally posted by Dawn Butterfly:
Ok so I went on that date with the bone marrow guy. But I begged off the cholesterol so we went to an italian resto instead, and afterwards we had coffee (without the quotes ok??).

It was during coffee that the conversation turned to business opportunities. Ok now I realize I have a potential partner here... in business that is LOL

well at least it was productive. we now have plans to put up training programs and the like.

I guess if all my other dates would suggest business opportunities for me then I'll go on all of them LOL... I need to find more ideas on how I can earn money

Well you can always sell your "own" services...

Lmao

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Originally posted by Singleparentcoach:

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Originally posted by Dawn Butterfly:
Ok so I went on that date with the bone marrow guy. But I begged off the cholesterol so we went to an italian resto instead, and afterwards we had coffee (without the quotes ok??).

It was during coffee that the conversation turned to business opportunities. Ok now I realize I have a potential partner here... in business that is LOL

well at least it was productive. we now have plans to put up training programs and the like.

I guess if all my other dates would suggest business opportunities for me then I'll go on all of them LOL... I need to find more ideas on how I can earn money

Well you can always sell your "own" services...

Lmao

Hahahha... LOL.... maybe there is a street corner nearby your home...then they can pick you up and you can call it a "business date"....hahahah. ok just joking.. no harm meant there

jts...heck all she has to do is start a cyber **** ...webcam works....paypal account to process orders..and voila..

lmao

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Originally posted by Singleparentcoach:
jts...heck all she has to do is start a cyber **** ...webcam works....paypal account to process orders..and voila..

lmao

LOL!! **** then she wouldn't have to worry about leaving the house!! But then again if she decides to see them in person, she could always require Cash On Delivery!!!! LOL LOL!!!! Then she would make $$ Quick!!! Hahahahahaha!!