LOL... I don't know if y'all remember me whining about the ex boyfrind that looked me up out of the blue after 2 and a half years (not my son's dad btw)... here's a quick refresher course... WE chatted back and forth for 6 weeks via e-mail, then I get ballsy and tell him I'm still not over him, then he gives me this banter about...well I can't remember now, lol, but it was pretty much a slap int he face. That was months ago... So then I hear nothing from him...until today! He drops me an e-mail telling me that he saw a movie a little while ago that reminded him of me, then says "I just wanted to say hey, it's been a while. hope things are going well on your end"...

What in the H E double hockey sticks?!?!?! Men are WIERD!!

Why do they do that?!?!?!

I mean... an e-mail just to tell me about some random movie? What's up with that?

I mean... if you wanted to just sever ties, wouldn't you leave your ex alone?? Why kick a dead horse?

Honeybee,

Kicking the dead horse is fun for boys. Kinda like the enjoyment my son gets from trying to pull al the legs off from a spider or wings from a fly.

See men are still boys! LOL. Anyways I dont get them either. Strange creature men are.

Good luck on figuring this one out.

SPIRIT

LOL, thanks...

I can figure most men out, but for some reason this one ex who is so flippin' complex (like a girl, lol) that I can't figure him out. Even when we were dating... it was wierd, haha.

He was THE ex, of course...Mr. "The one that got away". Here's a copy of the e-mail, haha:

"So I caught this movie on Cinemax a little while ago and it made me think of you. "Incognito", ever heard of it? This guy (Jason Patric) is an artist who takes on commissions to replicate famous paintings to sell
as forgeries to shady art galleries. It was actually a pretty cool movie. Check it out sometime if you haven't seen it. Or maybe you'd hate it. I dunno.
Haha.

Just wanted to drop you a line and say hey. Been a while. Hope everything is well on your end."


I'm assuming that the movie reminded him of me because when we were dating I was REALLY into art, and was planning to become a museum curator...


I dunno... I don't get him. I made an *** of myself telling him I wasn't over him, and figured that I'd never hear from him because, well, he didn't feel the same way...why check up on me again like 2 and a half months later? Not much has changed...it's not like it's been another 2 and a half years since we last chatted...

What does he want from me? It took all my nerve to write him back and play nice just to pretend that I am not embarrassed about letting him know my feelings a few months ago...

Ya know what I think? They like having someone fawn over them. I have the same thing with a guy I was seeing, and fell for, and he did not really return my feelings. He pops back into my life from time to time just to see if I am still pining for him.

He was always more interested in me if he thought I was dating someone else. Kinda like a challenge. Once he got me - he didn't quite know what to do with me.

I think they like us ... but not enough to "be with us" and yet, they like the idea of us liking them. Must be an ego thing.

My "fish that got away" can still get to me now and then, but for the most part - I know it's a lost cause - and I don't cry for him nemore. It would have been nice, and I've yet to meet anyone that can "make me feel" like he did - but in time... when God sees fit... I'm sure I will.

I don't think you CAN figure things like this out. It just is what it is. lol

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My "fish that got away" can still get to me now and then, but for the most part - I know it's a lost cause - and I don't cry for him nemore. It would have been nice, and I've yet to meet anyone that can "make me feel" like he did - but in time... when God sees fit... I'm sure I will.

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Very well said Inni! It helps to know that someone else knows exactly what it feels like...and to have that one person that made you feel a certian way.

I'm not pining over my ex, but I'm not over him. Does that make sense? I don't want to get back together, but I have yet to meet a guy that fit his mold, you know? It's like, I catch myself remembering wierd things...like remembering one night when we were snuggling and we discovered that my nose fit perfectly next to his... or I'll catch a whiff of his after shave and I'll sort of "crave" the past...it's wierd, lol

I'm just taking the e-mail for what it is...just an e-mail. I cannot waste time losing sanity over this, lol... I have better things to do. I was just curious if any one else had any idea what he was thinking... I talked to my best friend today and even she was baffled, lol...

Even if his e-mail was an ego thing... he still looked me up and keeps contacting me... that shows that it is he has more issues than I do, LOL.

Anyway, thank you both for your responses. I feel a lot better.

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Even if his e-mail was an ego thing... he still looked me up and keeps contacting me... that shows that it is he has more issues than I do, LOL.

hehe .. yep! and that makes it easier to move on. I understand so well.
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hmmmm. seems to be a lot of men bashing in the last few post. its quite possible that he isn't quite over you either. And yes there are things that can remind you of the happier times you had with someone. It appears he doesn't dislike you and still holds you in high regards. sometimes we don't mean anything, we just say what we feel, which can get pretty darn tough these days. It seems we always are supposed to have a "hidden meaning"

Oh, Wyatt, I'm sorry. We were just having a little fun at the expenses of the exes, hehe. I know there are a lot of great men out there, and I especially have to believe that men can be wonderful human beings because I am raising a little boy myself, and my dad is one of the greatest men on earth. The men on this forum (you included ) are testaments to how wonderful men can be as well. Anyway, I appreciate your comments, and you are right, there doesn't always have to be a hidden motive. Some guys can just say what they mean.. I just don't think my ex is one of them (he's a self proclaimed "complicated" person)


It does make me feel a little good that perhaps he's not totally over me yet either, hehe...

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Originally posted by Wyatt:
[qb] hmmmm. seems to be a lot of men bashing in the last few post. its quite possible that he isn't quite over you either. And yes there are things that can remind you of the happier times you had with someone. It appears he doesn't dislike you and still holds you in high regards. sometimes we don't mean anything, we just say what we feel, which can get pretty darn tough these days. It seems we always are supposed to have a "hidden meaning" [/qb]

I think the thing is that many of us dealt with manipulators and are always on the alert for hidden meanings. I think your right though that for the most part men think pretty simply and say what they mean and it's us women who tend to second guess things a lot and look for things much deeper. That's why men find us so complicated.

Mabey he just really loved this movie and had to share it with everyone he know's . If he shows up at your house trying to sell you the mona lisa. Call the cops.

Yikes, Spirit, we're not ALL brain dead...well...not all the time anyway.

Somehow in my last post, my comment got add to Spirits. LOL

I had something similar happen recently .. with bachelor #2, the artist. Apparently he's single again and a while ago he said that his gf wanted to start dating other people which he was really torn about. He realized that he was ready for something more meaningful - even though he knew he didn't want something meaningful with HER .. just in general. ANYHOW, the other day he popped into my msn .. surprised me actually. He told me that he's single for good and mentioned how he's planning on going solo for a while .. why? Because we're both available? I'm good enough to flirt with but nothing else? Then he gave me his phone number, insinuating for some kinky phone talk (at 2am) .. I didn't take up his offer. He's like this ex of yours. He's interested to the extent that he likes my attention but for the purpose of his ego only.

I know you guys where having a bit of fun, and I have a heck of a sence of humor, I guess on the day I posted that, I had heard quite a bit of man bashing most of the day. but...still like hangin' out with you all.