I think this is the right place to post this topic (it could have also gone under friendships I guess as well...)

Maybe some of the guys on this forum can give me some perspective on this...

On another forum, a guy began emailing me and we exchangd emails back and forth. He seemed like a nice guy and I'm always open to making new friends. We added each other on myspace to which I knew I had to be upfront with him on my situation of being pregnant. He "seemed" ok with it and I was honest. We continued emailing but I prefer instant messenger so I asked him if he had one.

It was then that he said "well, I'm actually dating _______ who is on my top friends so I'm really not interested in anything more than friends but my aim name is _____ and my yahoo name is _____"

WTF!!!!

THEN, I found an ex of mine that I used to date in college in the mid 90's. We did some reminiscing and some catching up and that was fine. Again, friendships are high on my list right now. I ask him about the instant messaging and he, at least he was nice about it, says "i guess this is the awkward part in which i tell you that i've been seeing someone for the past 6 months"

WHAT IS WITH THIS? WHERE IN THE WORLD DID I SAY 1) I WANT A FATHER FOR MY CHILD AND 2) I WANT TO MARRY YOU?!?! arghhhhhhhhh

Please tell me not all guys will do this...please tell me that there are guys out there who will be ok with a friendship even though I'm pregnant.....

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Please tell me not all guys will do this...please tell me that there are guys out there who will be ok with a friendship even though I'm pregnant.....

Well I'd love to give you some advice and my opinion but I have to tell that I'm seeing someone right now....LMFAO....

I'll be yer friend.....actually I like preggos...
Especially when they reach that state of brainfog...they're so fun to pick on then....LOL...
Guys are weird don't ya know that....what?? we get smart when a woman gets pregnant....chaa...

No not all guys are like this and you'll find that out yourself...
I'm a photographer and one of my favorite subjects is nude pregnant women....
Just something so amazing about a woman pregnant....

Not much help here but I try....

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I'm a photographer and one of my favorite subjects is nude pregnant women....

Who are you kiddding HB, one of your favorite subjects is nude women

I've noticed myself that IM has suddenly become like some type of commitment in the online universe. You start mentioning and guys freak out like you're asking them to only see you or something. It's weird. I only use it for my closest friends though.

damn didn't mean to send that yet.

finish sentence...one of your favorite subjects is nude women period!

MomAZ at least these guys are being upfront and letting you know they are involved..You have to respect their loyalty to their girlfriends

it is funny, i HATE instant messaging and on my aol account i "hide" so no one can see that i am online. texts are fine with me as they tend to be short and to the point. but to be trapped in front of this computer waiting for someone else to type back. argh. no way. well other than SFV chat! LOL

as to the friendships while pregnant, i suspect you are coming across as wanting more than a friendship and the men are picking up on it. i recall you asking about dating in an earlier post. i'm not saying you shouldnt, i'm just saying if you are thinking it, they are probably reading it as well.

and yea, kudos to them for being honest and not taking advantage of some out of whack rockin smokin hot preggo hormones that make even dog the bounty hunter look almost do-able! LOL

Just be glad he didnt say that you could see him on "to catch a predator" lol

But at least you weren't involved when they said that they were committed.

I'm with the others. At least these guys told you where you stand. Now whether what they say is the truth or a reaction to the fact that your pregnant is debatable.

I don't know. I IM several ladies on a regular basis but I don't see leftover wedding cake in my fridge anytime soon. If by some chance I became intimate with someone I IM on a regular basis it's not like I would stop communicating with the other females. A friend is a friend regardless of what they have in their pants.

Much love for them telling you they have girlfriends. My opinion is they probably could not handle being friends with a hot, sexy, preg woman like you. If you want to be just friends, lay that out on the table right away.

ha ha thanks all.

Yes, I agree IF IT'S TRUE that they have gf's to tell me but, I guess I just have the feeling that they were not necessarily telling me the truth. Not sure how I would come off as "wanting more than a friendship" on an email conversation.....God forbid that I'm an open, talkative gal who enjoys conversing with people lol

Maybe their mom found your e-mails and she was like oh no lol

their moms? uh these are grown adults one in the army and one raising his own child.....

I was only teasing.

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Yes, I agree IF IT'S TRUE that they have gf's to tell me but, I guess I just have the feeling that they were not necessarily telling me the truth. Not sure how I would come off as "wanting more than a friendship" on an email conversation.....God forbid that I'm an open, talkative gal who enjoys conversing with people lol

All I can say is that IF they do have gf's their gf's can be on their computer while their IM is on and you or other females will be IMing him. GF gets pissed and he will explain that you're just friends and she may or may not believe him. So maybe he's just trying to avoid any fights with his GF? I just know this b/c my ex used to pick fights with me when I was chatting with family (mind you my family is scattered all around the country and in the Philippines so IMing was the cheapest and easiest way to keep in touch).

I'll be your friend.

If you don't mind the fact that I'm not yet divorce yet (OH someday please God let it happen), and I'm a former Marine.

Dawg