I went out on sat, with some girlfriends and do not drink very often, had a few glasses of wine, and it put me way over the end, went to my neighbors bombfire, I was so embarressed with the ramblings I did that night, that i felt horrible all day on sun, crying and stuff, also made out with a guy I have know for awhile, not serious making out, just some kissing, but I am mortified by my actions, so just wandering, has ayone ever just lost their sense of self? I try to follow a christian path and raise my kids that way, but I really felt like a failure, on the other hand, It was nice to cut loose,my kids were gone, and just have some fun, I full time college and am on break. constuctional critism is welcomed

keepinghope,

If you feel mortified, and spent the next day crying and stuff - I would simply say ~ it didn't work for you.

I personally do not see anything wrong with having a few glasses of wine, when you do not have your children. I don't see anything wrong with kissing a guy, and if you were with friends... and said anything too silly - I'm sure they understood it was a rare moment for you, and that you were tipsy.

As long as you did not drive that way, or need to take care of your children (and could not)... I don't think you broke any golden rules --- however, as I said before... if you did not feel relaxed the next day, and better for having "let loose a little" --- I'd say, it's not your preferred method of doing so. lol

Don't sweat the small stuff tho ... move on, and just have 1 glass of wine next time - that might work better for ya!

thanks Inni, I needed that, I would never endanger or neglect my children or their needs, so it was rare thing that I even had anything to drink, the guy was nice but he has issues as the rest of us, I wasn't mortified over that, more so I felt that I failed myself by getting intoxicated. your right though, thanks a bunch

Sweetie Regrets we have all been there but you also deserve a night for you.It might help to know that even good moms have a few drinks,need affection from other adults.You are doing great kiddo dont let one slip knock you down. :huggies: :huggies: :huggies: :huggies:
Gail

Oh man have i been three my dear!!!! Just recently actually. I would say about two weeks ago. I went out w/some friends and drank WAY TOO MUCH!!! I was just everybodys friend and man did I get the free drinks. But by the end of the night a girl that knows my daughters father started in on me and I was a crying sobbing mess in the middle of the BAR!!! My friend rescued me told the chic to back off and brought me home. She hid me as much as she could. I did have fun b4 that and it was well deserved. My kids were safe and I got home safely. Its not that bad to have a little fun. So what if u make a fool of urself just hold ur head high and act like nothing happened. Heres' the trick don't bring it up and normally no one else will either.

Don't feel u were in the wrong. everyone needs to be foolish acting and a stress relase once in a while. It was just innocent fun and did not harm no one.

SPIRIT

I am feeling much better, and learned that no one really thought anything, so I guess my own self judgement is my worst enemy.

I have an over-active guilty conscious myself.... I can sure relate!