Hey, its been a while since i visited here. hope you are all well. I just need to un-burden as we usually do here. i met this amazing guy a few months ago. I work in media and we had to work together for a while. There was alot of chemistry between us but we ignored it, and when the work got done we met up for drinks with some of his friends.
him and i ended up boring the whole table to bits and soon we were alone just yapping away about everything and enjoying it so much.
well he is great, funny, sweet, real, but big downer: he is married!! I know, I know!
can i defend myself and then let you speak your mind? I am not looking for anything serious right now. Its just not a priority for me, but with him I get the perks ( as millie jackson sings) the gifts, the special moments and i dont get the underwear washing and drama. This is working so well for me now. We dont see each other that often, about once every month we'll do something together but we are such great friends.
i'll leave this open... I just need to hear what u have to say.

I really do not know what you are hoping to hear in response.

You said you are not looking for anything serious right now.

Try stepping back and take a look as an outsider and consider just how serious this amazing guy's wife would consider the situation.

It may feel great to be on the perks side of all this, but there is a lot of distruction from this type of situation.

I know it is possible to defend in one's own mind many poor choices and actions by looking at it from one point of view only. But do you think it is right to be with a married man?
If you were married, would you be fine with your husband having this kind of relationship with another woman?
Perhaps, I am looking at it with my own set of values and concience. I have a family member who's husband had a meaningless, playful affair. (His words). It was devastating and caused huge pain and repercussions.
The effects were pretty serious.

hmm, I am not sure being in love with a married man has a future. I for one do not think much of cheaters, and I certain would not get involved with one once I found out they where cheating. What will you do if you fall in love deep for this person? Even if he left his wife, how could you possibly trust him. I can only imagin what his wife would think about this, I am sure it would hurt like heck and I wouldn't be a party to it.

just the way I beleave.

It is great to meet a nice guy but I just don�t see how he can be that great when he is cheating on his partner. You say it is casual but you have titled it in love again and I suspect it will bring hurt to a bunch of people and top of that list is you. I guess for me personally the bottom line is how would I feel if I was the other person in this relationship and would I like to be treated like this. Well there is someone else �washing the underwear� and she deserves better from all concerned. I am not judging what you are doing, it is just for me integrity is right up the top of the things that I hold dear and this man has no integrity.