Ok- so I have a few questions for you guys....

If a girl likes a guy- and he says that he likes her back, is it appropriate for the girl to make a move to go beyond just being friends and try to take the relationship to a "relationship" level? Do guys find that attractive in a woman, or do they find that as being too "pushy" or "overbearing"? Do guys want to be the ones to take the lead in this sort of thing?

And if the answer is no- that its not inappropriate and not pushy, etc- then what would be the best way a woman could go about moving the relationship to the next level? Should she just come right out and say that she wants to be more than friends?

Can you tell I am new to all of this?? I want to try to move the relationship to a different level than it is now, but I dont want to come across as overbearing or pushy or like I am trying to lead. I would really like the guy to do it, but I dont know when or if he will. Should I just be patient and wait and see if he makes a move? Or should I make a move on my own and see if he receives it the way I am hoping he will??

HELP!!

Thanks Thor- thanks a whole lot! *roll eyes*

Anyone besides Thor want to chime in? I could really use some help tonight!!

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Originally posted by THOR:
I wish i could help you out on this but im a lesbian....im into girls. Sorry

You took the words right outta my mouth!!! LOL

PC, how long have you been seeing/dating this guy?

You guys are no help! LOL

Paul- not too long. But I know I want to try to at least explore putting the relationship on a different level- but I dont know how to go about asking or talking to him about it. Maybe I am just scared of rejection- and maybe I just want to know that he wants it too- so if I wait for him to make the move, then I know its because he wants it, and not because I said something first!

Carnation,

Paul and Thor are up to no good!!

Let the guy chase you, for heaven's sake! If he's not that into you, then move on.

I got that from a book I read, titled "He's Not That Into You" Good read for women. I recommend it.

To a certain extent, Dancing Mom is right.

If he doesnt ask you:
A. He's really not interested.
B. He chicken and really needs to grow a spine. (you dont want a guy like that)
or
C. He's Gay.

Next?

Thanks for your wisdom Paul...must come with such great age

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Originally posted by PinkCarnation26:
Thanks for your wisdom Paul...must come with such great age

Experience may be the best teacher, but heartache forges a steel soul....that only a soft hand can reach into.

...or something like that.

I refuse to let heartache harden my heart!

My best guy friend told me I need to build up some callouses on my heart when it comes to dating...I told him I dont want to- cause callouses mean I sill stop feeling- and I dont ever want to stop feeling with my heart

Gee, I started feeling and getting emotional, and I was told I was too intense and emotional. What gives?

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Originally posted by DancingMom:
Gee, I started feeling and getting emotional, and I was told I was too intense and emotional. What gives?

You're not intense and emotional....LOL..you're PASSIONATE!

at least that's what my ex used to say......but ...she is ...bipolar...so....

My last relationship should date a robot. Caramba!

Maybe he has RSD-robotic syndrome disorder!

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Originally posted by DancingMom:
My last relationship should date a robot. Caramba!

Maybe he is RSD-robotic syndrome disorder!

It's all about control...honey...all about control!

And THAT BOY....did not have it! LOL :2 snaps up in a circle:

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Originally posted by THOR:I speak my mind because i know what i want and im not letting that oppurtunity pass me by.
Just some mental notes. Now back to my padded room!!! lol.

Thor, That's probably because your confident in that area...and maybe some men are not.