Well,I have been divorced for 4 years and I think this year is the year that it really has hit me hard..I am really feeling alone lately and it is not a good feeling..lol..
On wednesday,my ex husband got arrested,they finally caught up to him for back child support,so he sits in jail..He got put in jail our sons bday...But,its not like he was ever in the kids life,just the whole thing stinks..I guess if he was a part of their life it would be worse than it is,but he never was,so its not as bad as it could be..

But anyways,I guess at times like the holidays kinda makes me feel all sad and wish I had someone..Dont get me wrong,I have my 2 kids,who are my life and I love watching them enjoy things... I guess I just wish I had someone......
Ok,enough of me venting......

I believe that I've heard those words in my own mind, and know that everyone here can relate.

I'm here for you this Holiday Season. Don't know if that will help, but just thought I'd let you know.

Yes that does sound like a familiar echo between my own ears as well. I do get plenty of enjoyment with the family and children to keep me "filled" though. The hardest of the holiday season and being alone I think is New Year's.

I agree with Don and Blindsky.
On your other note about venting.Please feel free to vent as much as you wish.This time of year is hard on everyone of us as parents,especially when we are single.
I know how much the dislike through various reasons can build up within us until we feel we need to explode.But,if we can do a little to support each other and prevent the feelings boil over.We are here.

With kind wishes and regards and a little hug.


Mark

I think we all know to well how over whelming loneliness can be. There is a lot of support here. It may sound strange but maybe try doing something for someone you would not do something for normally. I like to volunteer at the food banks and my church. I know it is not the same but it keeps me moving and focused on things other than my loneliness.
Lots of prayers.

I can definitly relate to how you feel. I am feeling the same way now. It does seem like the holidays get harder each year but keep your chin up. There are a lot of great peoploe here who know exactly how you feel and are here for you.

Thanks for all the kind words...
I am trying to keep busy,but I am sure as alot here,we all sometimes seem to dwell on things..I am trying to not focus on the bad,but look at the good things in my life.. :-)

The best thing to do with bad things in our lives...is to realize that none of them are permanent. If you look at all the good things and think of them as long lasting and permanent...that helps too.

I liked the idea above of volunteering to help others to take my mind off of things, wonder if they let little ones tag along I was thinking of making Christmas Cards for my friend Carl's unit...they won't be home until May.

Hi Diva

I too want to send you a (((( hug )))). This is a hard time of year for many of us I think. I have had a lot of tearful moments the past week and I have been FINE since my ex left. I think the worst was going to my daughter's string orchestra concert last week. There I was sitting alone amongst a sea of happy families (well..ok...maybe I am just ASSUMING they were happy LOL). I found myself tearing up a few times, once when the man in front of me put his arm around his wife. (it doesn't take much!!!)
Fortunately I don't worry much about keeping busy as free time is a rarity. Being busy is a blessing though. I think the worst thing we can do is dwell on things we see as lacking in our lives. Sometimes I think that it would be so nice to have a significant other...that maybe I wouldn't feel so alone in the world? Then I remind myself I am NOT alone in the world. I have four kids and a great mom too!
And I agree that venting is a HUGE help..second only to chocolate ;-)
Remember there are a lot of kind people that care.

S

I know what people mean about feeling the "alone" part even more this time of year. I just hit the 90 day mark on coming home and finding my other half gone. He took off and left me and my daughter alone in a city that we know no one in. We ended up here a year ago because of him and business and I come home from shopping one day and he is just gone, clothes and all.

All he left was a voice mail telling me that by the time I got his message he would be in Tennessee somewhere.

Like "Blindsky" says..."realize the bad things in our life are not permanent."

<<<HUGS>>> to all the lonely hearts this holiday season.

I've been divorced 5 years and it hasn't gotten any easier. In a desperate search, I moved to another country where my maternal family lives thinking this would bring my daughter and me some comfort. I realized after moving here that my family is not as united as I thought. The big, family Christmas reunion is non-existent. I've been here 4 months and not one single family member has set foot in my apartment, not even to visit my daughter. We're the ones that always have to go visit them. It feels like they don't care and are too busy with their own lives.
I've been trying so hard and now I feel empty and weak.
I can only hope that 2005 will be a better year.

Well Hello All,
I am new to this board too. I have been trying to improve my life by going to school. The stress has been amazing. We are making it and are happy. To tell the truth I am a mess emotionally. I am lonely too. My daughters mother left us quite awhile back. I go to school with "kids" to young to date most likely. It is just me and the kid. I am most grateful; she is full of love. I am mostly estranged from a strange family.(??) What that means is sometimes I wonder if I am doing the right thing. It just seems like I am going to be alone forever. I haven't been in a relationship in quite awhile and I guess I needed to vent some too. I have many good days, I guess today is not one. How do you meet people? I seem to have lost my touch.

To really meet people that will be permanent in our lives, we must first heal ourselves. SFV is a great place to start the healing process and begin to trust and live life again. The rest comes with the new gained confidence...or at least I hope!