I am ready to move on now that my divorce has been final for nearly two years. I met a fellow online who stated in his profile that he was recently divorced, but he confessed in our first phone call that his divorce is in fact only early in the works. I made it clear to him that his dishonesty was a red flag that I couldn't let go.
Upon meeting him, I liked him instantly and felt a karmic jolt to my heart, bells and whistles and horns and fireworks. That has NEVER happened to me before in all my 45 years! Now that I am in the full throes of a deep crush on this guy, I come to find that he is in a great deal of personal pain, pain that is nothing short of intense trauma to him. He still pines for his wife of 18 years, he does not want to loose his family, two kids 8 & 12, and the dream house they bought 2 years ago. His whole life is in meltdown. He has leaned on me for support, which I gladly give, and intimacy, which I also have given. I know that I am courting disaster and that I will get hurt. This is my issue, not his, but I am in love with him. He is aware of this, but I do not dwell on it when I am with him, but I would give anything to have a chance to be the one he may consider for his future. I am being careful not to crowd him and not to be too available. His pain is so poignant, and it emanates from him so much that I can feel it when I put my arms around him. I care so much for this man that I told him that I would give back all that he has lost if it were in my power to do so, even if it meant that I would never see him again. My heart is heavy, and it is high. I am aware of the risks of being the transition relationship, but I want to know if there are any ways to make this transition relationship a viable prospect for us as a couple in the future.

Sorry, but I don't see any future in this relationship until he lets go of past ties. No matter how much you love him, if he's still in love with his life, you are probably headed down a troubled road.

I agree:
you are always there for him, but has he ever been there for you? I mean you are in a difficult situation too, as a single parent,
You say you are in love with him,that he knows that, but you say he's still in love with his wife and in a big mess...

U can't solve his problems, u are not his mum and he should stop playing the victim
Maybe u could take sometime off, let him know how u feel and leave him to deal with his past and u start leaving your present...
life is short!I understand it's a hell hard, but if u started using half your energy to support yourself instead of him, u would really go far
Good luck to u!