After the post 'what do you think is the difference ?', this is the poll: 'why did MY relationship not work ?'

Question:
why did MY relationship not work ?

Choices:
I did not love him/her anymore
She/he did not love me any more
She/he cheated on me
I cheated
He/she was abusive
He/she had problems with drugs
I hated his/her Mom
He/She hated my Mom
He/she did not respect me any more
I did not respect her/him any more
There was no mutual desire left
She/He left me
I felt I had to leave
other reason

 

Well, I know why our two relationships didn't work, but where is the "She cheated on me multiple times and left me for a lowlife" answer??

my relationship was built on a lie.

I added a few options, which resets the votes. So, you can all vote again.

Mine cheated, but it's also what led up to her cheating. We drifted apart, we argued a lot, she didn't want a relationship to be work, she felt that she was jipped out of life (I guess having a baby at 18 can do that) - translation: She didn't get to go do the things that other 20 somethings did. However, she did, she told me so, so I'm not getting that one. Oh and the big one, she couldn't see being in the same situation in 15-20 years.

The laughable part about the 15-20 years is she never wanted to talk about the future.

I understand being grounded in the here and now, I'm not that way though, I look ahead, sometimes to far and too often. It's apparent her choices may take her future into consideration, but there's more than just her involved. The girls for instance.

Ah well. My mom made a great point last night. Since I try to do things her way and still end up in a fight, then I might as well start doing things my way.

God, I am so bitter. Mine left me for my 18 year old piano student/his HS student/babysitter. We had just bought a new house. LOL That's OK!!!!!
Could be worse! I could still be married to him!

I chose "other reason". I was young and stupid...but that wasn't an option.
...married him after I had only known him for about a month.
enough said.

Let's see:

He left
He had problems with drugs
He was abusive

Nuff said.

Yep, he cheated (made a baby too), he was abusive, and then he left.

Too bad I could only pick one... There were a lot that applied! Well, he drank (that was the root of all evil in our relationship), he was verbally abusive (but only after I became pregnant - he was so desperate to hold on to me before that point), then he racked up our internet bill (before limitless internet was so cheap) with **** and talking to girls on-line, and then he started staying out all night (like 5 a.m. he'd come home)-so I wasn't sleeping because I was worried, then he cheated on me...that might coincide with the 5 a.m. shift he had going, and then I went to stay with my mom and dad, so he took off 4 days before our daughter was born to move in with his buddies in a town three hours away. Yeah...I think that about sums it up. Yeah...

Smshy, your little Kai is SOOOOOO cute. I love the new pictures. She looks like you too!

Are we talking about the relationship from which our child came, the last relationship we were in, or just which ever one comes to mind. Personally I was thinking of my last relationship and it ended because he was gay, lol.

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Originally posted by coffeebls2000:
Smshy, your little Kai is SOOOOOO cute. I love the new pictures. She looks like you too!

Thank you She is beautiful isn't she!?! She has big blue saucers. And when alligator tears show up it takes all I have to put my foot down sometimes.

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Originally posted by Gabriel's Mom:
Are we talking about the relationship from which our child came, the last relationship we were in, or just which ever one comes to mind.
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ok, GM, that made me laugh.

[QUOTE] Originally posted by Gabriel's Mom:
Personally I was thinking of my last relationship and it ended because he was gay, lol.

Yeah, those tend to not work out so well... lol

Speaking of my marriage, it's hard (now) to pinpoint when it started not working. Was it when I spent almost 60 hours a week at the college in order to get my engineering degree, leaving too little time for family? Was in when we had 3 babies in 5 years with all the post-pardem depression that comes with that? Was it when I did this or when she did that? If you asked me two years ago, I was were fooser is at right now, I would've said it was because she fell in love with a 17 year old dutch boy and left me while I was at work. Two years later it's no longer that simple.

But my last relationship? That one's pretty simple. It was a rebound. She still loved her beloved husband and I was a horrible boyfriend.