I think Jaylie hit the nail on the head in her response as far as my intentions and suggestions. I truly started the original post to do research on why disproportionately a lot of single moms seem to smile at me and how they would react to someone like me, if I took it beyond hello. So, who better to ask than single moms.

I'm sorry if I made anyone upset by typecasting single moms. I have and will continue to treat all women equally, regardless of circumstance.

Good luck Aquus. Just get out there and take a chance. What do you really have to lose for trying? And if you find yourself a frustrated single dad someday I hope you'll look us up.

I don't take offense to being classified as a "single mom" -I think we are different--it is that specialsomething that makes us well...special...and it is a badge that I wear with honor!!!!!

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And if you find yourself a frustrated single dad someday I hope you'll look us up

Will you're such a good member here....nothing like plotting his future and leaving the door open for support....
Cept you should have said "when" not "if"......
You crack me up dude.....just for that you can draw ONE joker face on the padding....
As long as it's on your side of the room...which is the ceiling......

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why disproportionately a lot of single moms seem to smile at me

how can you tell the difference between a married mom and a single mom if all they are doing is smiling at you?

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how can you tell the difference between a married mom and a single mom if all they are doing is smiling at you?

Well instead of staring at their rack maybe he's being good and just checking for a ring !

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Originally posted by LaurieDorey:

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why disproportionately a lot of single moms seem to smile at me

how can you tell the difference between a married mom and a single mom if all they are doing is smiling at you?

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Can't wait to hear the answer to this one.

And HB I was trying my best to fake optimism previously. Was I convincing enough?

Aquus, I would actually encourage people to date a single parent. I think we are much less wrapped up in living the fairytale and are less prone to play games. BUT if you like them you must also like the kids (and they you) or it will most likely fail. Maybe you should do a comparison study. At any rate, just get out there and stop obsessing over it. Get your heart broken a few times. It builds character. I didn't become the well adjusted guy I am today by sitting at home waiting for the phone to ring.

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And HB I was trying my best to fake optimism previously.

Ummm Well.....why tarnish that reputation we've all come to love and enjoy.....

Well I'm glad to see we didn't scare you off!!
First I think I have to say that there must be something about you that are making these women (single Mom's or not) smile at you! They obviously are seeing in you something that they like...looks, a sweetness, a sincerity...Something about YOU makes them want to smile...How cool is that! Not a bad place to start as far as I'm concerned! I'm with Will * to a much simpler extent..LMAO* Smile back & say Hi...just see what happens! Depending on Where you are ask them something that would start a conversation...just see where it takes you. If you feel good about it then try taking the next step...maybe ask them to do something related to your conversation that would bring you to contact them or see them again! If you don't handle phone conversation well, try an e-mail as a way to explore getting to know eachother more. It is important for all single women that you make them feel good, but also that you're genuine so they feel safe! You mentioned before that you like the full package & want to be with someone that you can be yourself with! Like Will mentioned this is pretty important for single parents too b/c a great many of us have been through quit a lot & don't want to (or have the energy to..lol) Play games or pretend to be something we're not! So you already have so much to offer just by what you are looking for in a woman! If you need help with issues we're here! Just think it's not easy for that single Mom to smile at you maybe...think about what might be going through her mind...her insecurities..."Here's this handsome guy who seems to look nice...but I'm a Single Mom...could he ever be interesetd in dating someone with kids...What if he thinks I'm foward b/c I smile at him? Should I say Hi...Ah he didn't say hi I guess he wouldn't be interested!"
** Try reading some of the questions posed on this forum by single mothers wondering where to meet a nice "datable" guy & wondering what they should do if someone smiles at them...It may really help you to see that there are two sides if insecurity!** Just a place to start...Look under Dating & relationships...some topics are How to date as a single Mom? If you look through them you'll see "our concerns" And dating issues ... & maybe understand a bit more about why some people didn't respond positively to your questions. I don't know but could help.
Good luck & whatever you need...Just ask!!

Okay one more idea I just thought of ...What about something like Meetup.com I may be wrong, but I don't think it is just for single parents but for everyone. You can join groups in your local area...the groups are varied and you can pick ones that fit your interests. You can explore it online & even e-mail a few people to get their ideas on topics etc...so you can kind of "get to know them" a bit before Meeting...It can be a bit intimidating going to an activity where you don't know anyone yet...but that is a STEP! They may be sing parents or just single...either way you know you already share some common interests...just a thought!! Check it out!