I dont know what to do... I am 26 and have 2 boys 4 and 6. Their dad and I split up about 3 1/2 years ago after 8 years by my choice... we grew apart.... He lives in Wa. but has them during Summer and Winter breaks. ok so, i have been dating for a long time now, trying to meet different kinds of people. The problem is it seems the ones with the most issues are the ones I have clicked with and they all have turned out to be rollercoaster rides and the ones that were decent bored me to death. I am so discouraged and want to give up on dating, yet I hate being alone, im miserable without having someone their. I really dont have anyone to lean on as far as family support, so I carry a lot on myself and it seem that having a man in my life fills that void. Im just sick of not clicking with someone worth spending time with. Im in a rut and wonder is there anyone out there that understands what Im going through? It seems kind of petty compared to a lot of issues but this is my issue right now. I live in an area that really doesnt consist of many single parents my age, so its just hard to know if this is normal or if im just crazy....any feedback would be apreciated! Thanks

This is going to sound stupid, but it's time to find some girlfriends. A girlfriend can't help you out at home, and she won't help you change the oil. But she will listen and care. She'll be a shoulder to cry on, and go see a movie with you. A good girlfriend will chat with you about TV shows, and shoes.

Your girlfriends might be your age, or younger, or older. They might be married, or single, have kids, or not. It doesn't matter. You might end up with a collections of 3 or 4, or you might have one good girlfriend.

Once you can get that companionship, you'll be able to take care of the guy stuff no problem.

Thanks... I agree a good girlfriend is nice to have. I have a few but its the time factor that plays the burden on how often we can get together. I enjoy hanging out with the girls...just wish i had more time for it! I appreciate your suggestion and you are absolutely right! Thanks a lot!

Charity is right. Good girlfriends are priceless. The time factor with good girlfriends is never a problem. You are always able to pick up right where you left off.

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Originally posted by mommyof2boys:
[qb]I am so discouraged and want to give up on dating, yet [B]I hate being alone[B], im miserable without having someone their. I really dont have anyone to lean on as far as family support, so I carry a lot on myself and it seem that having a man in my life fills that void.[/qb]

I completely understand what you are going through. Is it possible that the men that offer the rollercoaster ride make you feel "needed" and somewhat "secure?"

That rollercoaster ride can become a habit. Re-assess what you want out of a relationship. What can the "exciting" guys offer you besides consuming your energy? You deserve more than that. Maybe it will help to take a break from dating and learn to fill that void with other activities including friendships. Once you have done that, you may feel more positive about dating someone that is truly right for you.

I have dated off and on for 2.5 years. Took me awhile but I finally figured out that I'm happier "not dating." My girlfriends come over to visit, my children and I go to ballgames and associate with other parents.

Yes I think i am at the point where Im just in need of a break. I feel drained and unable to put forth any energy toward a relationship. I dont know if Ive just lost faith or what but a break is needed. My downfall is the loneliness and just having someone there to surrender to (so to speak). Im working on it though! Thanks for your advise!