So I've been going out with this guy for about two months and it was going okay. Then last week when I was in Wyoming he sent me a message asking if he could move in with me...now please reference the "two months" already stated. I said no and his next question was well then can we get married. I sort of just stopped replying at that point. When he picked me up at the airport I just explained that this was moving a bit fast for me, and his response was "well I'm falling in love with you". I broke it off completely today...I'm not ready for moving in and marriage and falling in love, not after two months. I barely know you after two months. I tried to explain it nicely as to why I didn't think it would work, b/c I didn't want to hurt him but he wasn't getting it so I finally just said it's over and good luck. Was that mean of me? I had no idea he was thinking about love and all that other stuff. I thought we were just getting to know one another and taking things slowly...maybe I missed something though.

oh my gosh. I can only imagine how difficult that was for you, but jeez I can't help but think that you've dodged a bullet. A guy who wants to move in and/or get married after two months really isn't playing with a full deck. Good for you for listening to your gut.

No yer not mean.....
I mean what kind of knob asks you to get married after you tell him you don't want to live together....
Thats like asking.....you wanna have sexx...no?...well will you have my baby then....... .......

You did the right thing.......thank you...
Cuz that makes for an awful long flight for me to kick some knobs asss...

Not mean at all. Very smart. From my perspective, looks like he's gotten himself into some desperate situation that you don't know about yet, and thought marriage would turn that no into a yes. Good riddance.

You were not mean at all - very sensible!

to be fair, you are smart, successful and beautiful, how could he not want to marry you?

just a little too quick on the trigger, i agree. too bad you could not just morph back to where you were prior.

Thanks guys! Gosh HB if I'd known that's how to get you to come visit I would have told you sooner

Was that the same guy that jumped off an overpass yesterday?

Seriously
That's the problem with relationships, very seldom two people move at the same speed, even though in this case I agree with everybody (weird) that something is not right.

I think you did the right thing. He doesn't seem to respect your boundaries and could very well be too selfish to realize what you need. Maybe he needs some space to realize he needs to fix some of his issues too.

On a flip point of view... I have a friend who is happily married for over 10 years and they were together since their first date. She claims he never went home. Imagine that.

I say you did the right thing. I had a girl ask me to marry her after 3 weeks of dating and I laughed at her. Then she brought a ring over that has been in her family for a few generations. Well the ring got stuck and they had to cut it off. Needless to say she wasnt very happy

When I first started seeing my ex she just came to visit me one weekend and never left. I went off to my classes on Monday and she was still there when I got back. She never even went back to her dorm (different university) to get her stuff.

We were young and having fun. Lasted 13+ years so I guess it didn't turn out too bad.

Now the idea of two months seems way too fast.

Yes, 2 months is too quick. He was falling for you way too fast. Sucks for him, he lost a wonderful woman.

Holy wow......no you definately weren't mean. In fact, you didn't lead him on but instead were truthful and I agree with your logic. In fact, I would hope that a GUY would do the same thing if a girl said the same thing.

I agree that was too quick. I was in a similar situation with my ex, however when I told him I would not live with him after 2 months, he just asked the month after. Kind of wish I had refused to live with him for a while longer, but then again I wouldn't have my two beautiful children. I can not believe this guy asked you to marry him when you would not move in. That just sounds like he was a dumb idiot who could not get a clue. He is lucky you were nice enough not to run away screaming.

I take that as a red flag and you made a wise choice. I agree with everyone here though. You seem like a nice person with a lot going for you ..

.. but there are also guys out there that think single moms are desperate, particular those with multiple children, and are easy prey to victimize. In his mind, he may of thought, "Well why WOULDN'T she let me move in??" Maybe he's a nice guy but genuine people (aside from the rare exceptions) wouldn't ask a single mother of 3 to move so quickly into a new relationship. They know better. My hunch is he's bad news. Don't feel bad.