MC Hammer and Vanilla Ice on the same ticket?!?!?! How come no one invited me? j/k

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Originally posted by singlein08:
I have red hair (natural)

Were you saying something? I seem to have lost... all... focus... argh! You'll have to give us a break, some of us guys are like bulls, we see red and we just want to charge right in

Almost every guy I know likes sports. I don't know what's with your dates... are you attracted to men in eyeliner?

I agree with everyone else, doesn't sound like he's the guy for you... but at least he was honest

First I will say that some men with long dark eyelashes (not eyeliner) are VERY attractive (Brad Paisley). But I can not blame this on why these guys didn't like sports (although alot of people said my ex looked and walked gay).

Anyway, I think I am going to color my hair BLACK. Maybe I can start attracting normal guys jk.

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Anyway, I think I am going to color my hair BLACK. Maybe I can start attracting normal guys jk.

so then are you saying our eskimo stud is not normal???

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Originally posted by LaurieDorey:

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Anyway, I think I am going to color my hair BLACK. Maybe I can start attracting normal guys jk.

so then are you saying our eskimo stud is not normal???

Uh... Um... Surrounded by that much cold has to do something to you.

Anyway normal is relative.

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Originally posted by Moosey:
MC Hammer and Vanilla Ice on the same ticket?!?!?! How come no one invited me? j/k

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Originally posted by singlein08:
I have red hair (natural)

Were you saying something? I seem to have lost... all... focus... argh! You'll have to give us a break, some of us guys are like bulls, we see red and we just want to charge right in

Almost every guy I know likes sports. I don't know what's with your dates... are you attracted to men in eyeliner?

I agree with everyone else, doesn't sound like he's the guy for you... but at least he was honest

Oh my goodness me too! My oldest already knows alot of the words too Ice Ice baby! And MC Hammer was the only "rap" music we were allowed to listen to when we were kids!

And Toby, I have red hair, and you have family Oregon, when are ya comin' for a visit!

Ok, I know I am probably showing how naive I am, but I NEED some advice.

I thought this guy finally got the vibes I was sending when he had tried to kiss me on our "date" because he had not called. I was thinking this was great because I would not have to figure out exactly what to tell him. Well, he called today. I did not answer so he left a message. I know, I am such a coward. Anyway, he said he was sorry he had not called but he had had a really bad week. I am hoping he had allergies because he sounded as if he had been crying. I don't want it to sound like I think the world revolves around me or anything like that, but if he has had a bad week I really would not want to say anything that would make it worse.

What would you do?

When I was younger I dated a couple of girls that had kids and they fell for me just because I liked their boys.
It makes me think that, may be, this guy assumed that because you are a mother you are looking for someone to take care of you kids so he said those things because he thought that was what you wanted to hear.
As far as your original question goes I think there's nothing wrong with seeing people even if you are not sure you are ready to get serious about it as long as you are upfront with the other person, they way I see it, I, as a father, can't keep bringing girl after girl to my house, I have to be sure about our relationship before meeting my daughter.

You can always tell him you've became a mormon.

Adrian, I agree with you and will not bring any dates home until I believe that the relationship has gotten to a certain level. But as far as him saying what things he thought I would want to hear, I told him I was just divorced. I also made it clear that I am LOOKING for what I want in a guy.

Don't know. Still have not called him back. Maybe I will tomorrow. After our so called date last Sunday, I am sure he would not believe I turned Mormon. Oh, well. Any other ideas? Guess I will just have to learn how to "break up" with guys. Now I really wished I had dated before I got married.

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He is catholic and does not seem tolerant of other religions at all.

well, this would have me running for the hills immediately!!!!

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Originally posted by singlein08:
I don't know exactly how to put this, just hope it is understandable. I talked to a guy this last week that I met at a coffee shop. He is interested on going out on a date and getting to know me. He seems to be a nice guy and I am wanting to start dating, but I see absolutely no "future" with him. I am going to see him again on Sunday and hang out. Is this wrong? He knows that I just got divorced and have two kids and he is perfectly fine with it.
I feel kind of guilty by going out with him, but I just want to get my feet wet. Is that using him?

I just don't know. I have never really dated. Just my Ex.

singlein08

I don't see it as necessarily wrong. IF you are feeling guilty about it perhaps you should just tell him that you have no interest in pursuing it further.....being upfront and honest I think most men can appreciate it because they don't read minds and they really really do would like to know where they stand.

So I would go out with him to get to know him...he could turn out to be a very good friend and nothing more. You can tell him that at the moment you have no desire to pursue it further other than outings and hanging out and you appreciate his company...but aside from that you don't have serious interest.

That would be what I would do.

Hope that helps.

But give the guy a chance also. HE may turn out to be the right guy for you. You will never know that if you do not spend time getting to know him.

M

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Originally posted by Adrian1trk:
When I was younger I dated a couple of girls that had kids and they fell for me just because I liked their boys.
It makes me think that, may be, this guy assumed that because you are a mother you are looking for someone to take care of you kids so he said those things because he thought that was what you wanted to hear.
As far as your original question goes I think there's nothing wrong with seeing people even if you are not sure you are ready to get serious about it as long as you are upfront with the other person, they way I see it, I, as a father, can't keep bringing girl after girl to my house, I have to be sure about our relationship before meeting my daughter.

Adrian that is so true.
WHen my son was young, I could't get a date if I tried. Now that my son is older and very independant, dates are coming from all over. So I think your right about the fact that some men may think that they believe women are looking for a man to take care of the kids.

ah whatever, but so true....

M