I am a single mom of a 7 year old son. His father has never been in his life and he feels really bad about that. I have been in a relationship with a guy for about 5 months. The problem is that my son thinks that I love my boyfriend more than I love him which is not true. He and I have talked about it but I can not seem to help him understand. I do not want him to use this as a way to get to me. He knows that I feel bad about him feeling this way. I also do not want him to think that he can run my life and just because he does not like having to share me that I will just end my relationship. I love my boyfriend and hope to be married to him in the future. If my son continues with his attitude and bad behavior I am afraid that my boyfriend will leave. I am just wondering if anyone has any ideas on how to deal with this.

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Heather

You can try to bring the conversation to his level by showing the relationships that he has with the other children in his school and class.

You can explain about his relationship with his friends and his best friends.

Than show him how its is kinda the same.

Good luck and remember
Little boys always love their moms...
and if this guys the right guy for you two... here is his test to see if he can go the long haul...

JMO
Hope that helps...

[This message has been edited by Robin (edited 03-04-2001).]

Dear Heather,
What your son is feeling is normal. He had lost a father. You are now the only person in the world where he feels loved and secure. He does not want to lose you. He's feeling insecure that your boyfriend will take away the only love he has. Remember your son is also hurting and confused. Help him to cope with his loss and pain. Give him continually your love and affection and let him express his feelings. Try not to put him down, but emphatize with him. What about you, Heather? Have you worked thr your own grief? I would suggest u go very slow in this relationship with your boyfriend. Get to know him first as a friend before making any kind of commitment.