Does it matter to you when considering whom you will date? Can you date someone who makes considerably less than you?

For women, can you date a guy who doesn't make enough money, should in the future you decide to get married, to take care of you and your children? I know how that sounds and I know you don't necessarily need a man to take care of you, but if you get married and trouble comes and you need to live on one income, would you date a guy whose circumstances won't allow that for the foreseeable future? How willing are you to bet that things will change for the better?

For single dads, are you looking for single moms? Are you considering how much it costs to take care of your kids and help her with hers? Don't you think it's easier to build a relationship with a childless woman? Would you be intimidated to date a woman who makes considerably more than you do?

good question. i did not think money mattered to me. i had always made a lot more than the men i dated and the man i married. then i dated a gajillionaire and while i loved him, i hated his world. i could not be happy surrounded by country club snobs. so my ridiculos answer is that too much money would be a problem for me.

why do you ask miss lola - how do YOU feel?

Money is the root to all evil

I personally think that too often, too much emphasis is put on money. Granted it takes money to survive but it's not the be all end all of living. Some covet money too much, others have no responsibility about it whatsoever. I think it's more a question of the person themselves and how they view/handle money rather than how much they have or don't have....

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It amazes me that you can sit in a room with 10 other people and they can speak frankly of their *** lives, abusive childhoods, ANYTHING personal but you ask them how much money they make and all you get is a collective gasp and get run out on a rail.

Well I guess we know what NOT to bring up in chat then, right ? LMAO Because otherwise it sounds pretty much like those sessions lately !

Ah yes...another good double standard topic.....
I can distinctly recall right here on this forum in topics of dating and finding a mate that the issue of a good paying job and money was high on the list for women. But I really don't recall ever seeing the same when the men were airing their beliefs in what was important in a mate. Like stay at home dads are still looked on as fags weasels and losers. But stay at home moms...well thats ok....thats normal. As Don said money is the root of evil and it causes problems both ways...either too much or too little and that is nuts really.

In the poast I've always been an aggresive over-achieveing workaholic and have done alright for myself so for the most part it wouldn't bother me either way what a woman had. Except to say that women who make or have good money I tend to stay away from because they're too full of themselves and they expect that I should do and live as they do...get lost...I live a very easy simple life and I have no desire to show any thing off...except myself in a red dress I guess....

I actually had a woman I was seeing get angry at me cuz she thought I should live higher on the island and wear more exspensive clothes...buzz off. I'm currently seeing someone who is from the Dominican Republic who grew up with nothing...she came here and has a good job and works hard but she really doesn't make squat. Doesn't make any difference to me because she is very nice not to mention beautiful. Fact is she just recently had to take a leave of absence and is back in the DR right now to take care of her parents. It has been a financial set back for her to go. Have I lost interest in her....helll no not at all. She was back here last week for a couple days and I was happy to see her...regardless of how much money she had in her pocket or bank account. Fact is I've helped her to be able to go do what she needs to do...not as much as I'd have liked to help...thank you jersey girl...but I didn't hesitate to help her.

My point is that it is just sad and really very pathetic when people...men or women place value on money to determine if a relationship is valid. yes it's important to work and if one is not helping to support the household then something is wrong..either way man or woman. But if it's based who has or makes more...pffft...

Amy is a good example here...she openly admits that she doesn't have money and I recently helped her a bit...
So what...I still love her and expect no payback...Cuz I know if i ever get through Ohio and oops flat tire she's gonna be proving every little thing she brags about in chat....bisquits & gravy....the finer use of water....hair pulling...well you get the picture...she doesn't need money to make me happy....LMAO.....

I agree with you whole-heartedly HB.

To me, the reason money doesn't matter so much is that I look at it this way: My children are MY responsibility. I have to be able to care for them no matter what anyone else in my life does. If I am in a relationship, and he has money, ok, cool. If not, oh well. I am the one my children are going to depend on, therefore I will be working.

Having said that, I am also in complete agreement with Amy - I will NOT support a man who simply refuses to work and wants to put his lazy *** on my couch and treat me like I'm his mother. I don't do that. If someone is going to be with me, they either need to be working, or they need to have their own independent source of income that doesn't involve nudity on a street corner or the selling of anything questionable. (Had to throw that in there with this crowd, lol.)

Now, I've not always been as independent. There has been a long streak where I had no car, and no job recently. I worked part time, and temp jobs because with no transportation and issues with child care it was hard to get anything better, but I ALWAYS made sure my kids were taken care of, and I did my part to help pay bills any way I had to.

Life isn't perfect and money causes too much strife. I'd rather be comfortable and happy than rich any day.

I'm supporting my household fairly well by myself now, and was supporting all of us even before my ex left. What I miss is the feeling that someone is there to help me sort things out, figure things out.

I hope I wouldn't discard the idea of dating someone because of his income, just as I hope I wouldn't let other superficial things sway me.

I've come so far in my efforts to be the person I really want to be, I don't want to turn over my independence and my security to anyone else. I'd just like someday to stop feeling so alone.

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HB makes a good point. I don't have much but I don't hestitate to share what I have freely and it would be the same way if I did have more money than I knew what to do with. It's simply in my nature to share what I have with the people I care about as it is in his nature.

Exactly what I was trying to say.....it's not about what you have and don't have, it's your outlook about that almighty dollar that tells the tale.

I don't really care if my future BF has money. I tend to look at how responsible he is with it. I think it's scary when someone spends money they don't have or chase the "get rich" dream...so I tend to stay far away from someone with these characteristics.

I want someone to share a smile and times we laugh and cry... so I guess it's more about being passionate about life.

funny, I had HB pegged for the country club tea and crumpet sect, pip pip and all that .

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funny, I had HB pegged for the country club tea and crumpet sect, pip pip and all that .

tea and crumpets...with my pinky sticking up...???

Watch it Mr Clean or I'll have to smack ya on dat bald spot....

pip pip have a grand day....tally ho...

Sorry bout that HB, I seem to have found my sense of humor. The people around here are ducking for cover because of it also.

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Originally posted by Lurch:
Sorry bout that HB, I seem to have found my sense of humor. The people around here are ducking for cover because of it also.

No worries here man...it's good to see it back...
And their not ducking from you.....I f@rted...