Hey guys,
I was just wondering if anyone tried using dating service. I signed up (honestly, I just want a friend, not a boyfriend). I feel lonely sometimes when I start wallowing and all... Well, I try to stay positive. My situation is this: me and my ex are in process of getting a divorce. We've been separated for a year now. It was my idea to end the marriage of 7 years. It was very complicated and almost destroyed me, I'm talking my self-confidence, my inner strengh, and even my sanity. I hate the fact that my babies love this man to death, but he has OTHER PRIORITIES of which he doesn't speak to me. I don't get it at all. Kids miss him a lot, but he, although a loving parent, is abscent most of the time...
Well, back to this dating thing.. I signed up, but didn't post my picture. Like I said, my self esteem has suffered a lot during my marriage and I'm just plain scared of men. Is that normal??? Help me out somebody.

It's very normal to loose your self esteem! I've been single for 3 years and still have none! I have gained quite a bit of weight since becoming single and am trying like mad to get it back off and if that doesn't eat at you nothing will... (for me anyway) Nope...I don't like to put my photo up anywhere, let alone even have it taken!

I'm just plain scared of men too! This is now the second marriage that has ended badly for me. I have been in counseling for quite a while because, of course, both men blamed me for everything. I'm not saying I'm blameless but it does take two.

At any rate, my self esteem has taken a huge hit. Only, my problem is opposite yours...I have lost 20 lbs since my ex left me. I have little to no desire to eat and force myself most of the time.

As for dating services, I'd wait a while If I were you. People on those things aren't always as truthful as they should be. I met my 2nd ex in an ICQ singles chat room. He misrepresented himself BIG time.

You have this forum and lots of people to chat with. While you may be lonely, you are NOT alone. If you ever want to chat real time, let me know. I'd be glad to chat with you.

Wow...You have two very handsome little men! :grouphug:

Don't even go there with the weight issue I joined weight watchers and lost like 10 lbs. It's only been a month and I'm already loosing my motivation. I just go to bed every day saying: I'll try again tomorrow....

Well I know how you feel. I was single for two years before I could work up the courage again. There for a while I thought all women were evil. I know I was wrong but the fear was real. Well I posted my profile on match.com because I had no idea how to go out and meet people. Even though I posted my photo I was still able to find someone. Well she found me, I did not have the courage to make the first move and still dont. Well we are not actually dating yet, we have gone out together three times but we talk every night on the phone. When she contacted me on line she did not have her photo posted. We exchanged e-mails for about a month before I got her first photo. So the important thing is to just put yourself out there and see what happens. You might be suprised.

John is right!! Put yourself out there! You can find many men that are looking for a friend too, or as I say a casual dating relationship.

Theres someone out there for everybody!!!

I thought I would be the only that could say I was scared of men! They terrify me! I don't trust them because my ex was unfaithful the whole marriage (5 years) and blamed it on me saying he wasn't attracted to me because I had gained weight. Hello three babies in four years will do that to ya! I would love to start dating again but am afraid at the same time. But that doesn't seem to matter cause I mention three kids and men start runnin away!!