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He comes with a lot of baggage and the red flags are popping up all over the place.

always trust your gut. always trust your gut. always trust your gut. always trust your gut. always trust your gut. always trust your gut. always trust your gut. one for every day of the week.

you are blessed with some hindsight here to help you to always trust your gut.

think of every time in your life you beat yourself up for making the wrong decision - for me it is always when i ignored the little voice that was whispering inside of me - even when it sometimes screamed... always trust your gut.

Not knowing this man two scenerios come to mind.

1. He still is emotionally attached to his ex, and knowing this he does not want to have you get too close to him because he knows that he could possibly get back together with his ex again( for good--means nothing I have learned) and he does care for you and does not want to hurt you.
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2. He is using you for emotional support to ease his hurt ( hence, he only wants to talk about his own situation) He most likely is attracted to you and as I have learned that is sometimes the only criteria for a relationship with a man.

I guess what you have to ask yourself is can I just remain friends with him without getting emotionally hurt, or is it better to detach myself now (or at least while his break-up is new) and avoid the possibility of getting hurt.

This is just my opinion and believe me I am not by any means an authority on men or relationships.

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I think it was said here before: never make someone a priority in your life when that person has made you an option.

You are worth so much more than to be someone's fallback position. Know that.