In Aug. I just found out I was pregnant. I have had a past relationship with the father. I have always cared for him, and I thought he cared for me. Well, he does want to be in this childs life, but he is not willing to try to work things out with me for our childs sake. I am just now 11 weeks pregnant, and he is already seeing another girl! Am i wrong for taking this so bad? He had no problems sleeping with me, then we get pregnant and I'm no longer good enough? If there is anyone who is going or went though this, please give me some advice on how I'm suppose to feel? or just anyone who want to talk.

Well hun,
I have read allot of forums with women in your same postion , I dont understand why some men do this.
So I cant help there however, you have the right to feel any way you want to their your feelings and its alright to be angry with him and understandle. If I can give you any advice at all I would tell you he isnt worth your time and if this is the way he is acting while you are carrying the best part of him then I think you owe it to yourself to find someone who will be there through thich and thin and love you the right way, and believe me their are men out there who will do just that and treat you like you need to be treated.
However when it comes to your child let him have the relationship with his child the child is going to be brought in the world oblivious to what happened between you and him, keep it that way for the childs sake. It will benefit you and him and most important the baby inbetween you.
If you cant seem to get over what he has done to you then I suggest seek someone proffesonal to talk to. There is nothing wrong with counseling, it helps allot it may not give you the awnsers from him you want however it will help you move on if you find yourself stuck in the healing and overcoming process.
Congradulations hun, and good luck!

I had a similiar situation. My son is now three months old. I was with the father for a very long time, and always thought we were getting married. Only two weeks after finding out I was pregnant, he left me to go back to his ex wife. He told me from day one that he wanted to be involved with the babys life (and so far he has). But he wanted nothing to do with me while I was pregnant. I still to this day cant understand how he can just LEAVE me pregnant..but have any and all rights to our son, it is very frusturating, but unfortunetly..I have to deal with him for the baby's sake. I cant tell you how you are supposed to feel, but from being in your shoes...I have a pretty good idea of how you are feeling. I am always up for talking...keep in touch.

I'm new to the sight and I want to let you know that it's happened to me also. I was 14 when I got pregnant and he was 15. It was just a little boyfriend/girlfriend thing until we found out. He stopped calling me and I found out he had another girlfriend. I wasn't good enough for him. I guess boys take it diffent. I felt bad at first but I got over it. I didn't date anyone until my daughter was 2 and I am now 20 years old and married with a wonderful man. You don't have to sell yourself short. If he doesn't want to be with you then you're to good for him. There are always better.

I went through my whole pregnancy alone. It isn't easy, but you will get through it. Don't deny him the rights to his child. If he wants to be an active participant, that is his rights. Unfortunately, being a mom you have to put your personal feelings aside and do what is best for that child. If my son's father wanted to be there for him, I would gladly step aside and let them develop a bond. Don't hold the baby over his head for a relationship. It will only cause you and him to resent each other and the baby. Then you all lose. Take care of yourself and have a great pregnancy. If you need to talk to someone that has been there, there are lots of us on this site that would be happy to listen.

-Jennifer

Addie,

I have been a single-parent from the day I found out I was pregnant. I was in a short-term relationship when I found out I was pregnant. I told him and he said to NEVER tell his mother since he was in Chicago going to school. He never really talked to me after that was since I was friends with his mother I thought she had the right to know she was going to be a grandmother. She invited me over for lunch one day and sat me down to tell me that I had to get an abortion because I would ruin their prefect million-dollar lives if I was going to have this child. I looked at her and walked out of the house. She JUMPED on my car and I got out and softly said that if she didn't remove her body off my car I would begin to yell and make it well known that I was going to have this child. So I began to scream!
Finally, he called me to tell me he didn't want anything to do with or this child. I seriously cried for a totally of two minutes until my mom came over and said this "do you really think you could share this precious child with someone who doesn't care about anything except for his precious honda." My eyes were wide open and its true, four years later, living in the same place he has never come to see his child. I graduated college with two degrees, self-employed and able to spend quality time with my child and when I think of him I say "he's missing out on someone who is talented beautiful and so loving!

"being pregnant"
I hated going out and seeing couples, wishing to fall in love and have that fairy tale wedding and living happily ever after but reality.....
you can have everything you ever wanted in life and be a loving parent and a role model to your child/children! My child comes first, and one day love with find me but I wouldn't settle for anything less.