Just curious what everyone's thoughts were on meeting someone online. Personally I have come to realize that if it involves distance it doesn't work unless one or the other has intentions of moving, but in general we don't have the opportunity to really see what the person is like on a daily basis.
Do you think I am closed minded on this because of my experience of having gone on dates with men from online sites. Do you think I have made conclusions based on my own experience or is there really a problem with this method.

My oldest is a long haul trucker and if the wheels aren't turning hes hot earning so he meet his wife on line and she introduced my second oldest to his wife. They both had long online relationships before meeting in person and then getting married.

Brent and Lindy have been married more then 3 years and Trevor and Ofelia 1 year.

I think that it is a matter of honesty and communication, but that is also a problem for dating period.

The more complex your life the harder dating will be I think. As old as I am, and with young kids I doubt that I will be dating for a long time.

I tried it also but I found that most of the people online didn't portray themselves honestly. To give them the benifit of the doubt they may have just put down what they thought they should be like as opposed to what they actually were like. Or they just put out what they thought you wanted to hear.

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Interesting that your children have met their wifes online. I guess my concern with this, is who else would they be meeting? That is always my thought when in the past I have met someone on line especially on those dating sites because they are obviously continuing to chat with others.

Was this the case for your son?

For me.....I fell inlove, chatted with this person online for a couple of months, met him in Montreal (2 hours away) and we fell inlove. One year later he decides he can't continue a long distance relationship which I understand. I wanted nothing more than to be with him but I was waiting for a transfer with my job. Sure enough we broke up in January a few years ago, and 4 months later, my boss invites me for lunch to have a chat. My position was getting cut and they were sending me to Montreal. What timing!!!! He broke up with me in January and by the 1st of February he was already living with this other woman. Geepers...so it really made me think that perhaps he had kept his membership on the dating site, and the weekends I was not able to go down he must have met this person...whoever she is.

So experience with online one night stands doesn't count, does it?
No, seriously though, I was wondering about the whole online dating thing as well. I am curious to see what people have to say.

what site did you use singleparentcoach?

nevermind you don't have to answer that. sorry

LOL ok me and alec,

I used if I can remember at the time was called Metrodate ...I think. It seemed ok.

Not sure about what site Brent found Lindy on, but they are both from the same college in the Philippines, in an area not recommend for US citizens to go to.

I doubt that the girls were messaging with other guys as one of the boys was not exactly "catch of the day" at the time. (I love him anyway).

My other adult son (?) also was messaging with a friend of the other 2, but he is not a real good at writing, and was stationed in Korea and the Army said no was was he getting a pass to go the Philippines, so he eventually ended it.

Both of my daughter in laws are very different, as are the boys.

Cool

So Tanya,

Maybe there is hope....LOL

I think it takes a smart person to be able to date from online sources like that. As mentioned some really do just state what they think they are like or that what others want to see. Profiles are alright but it takes much more communication to get to know the real person. And of course most opportunities involve distance, so yes it would help immensely if one of them are able and willing to relocate eventually.

Just last year I tried a dating site for a short while, and dated someone for about a month, she was right here in town which helped. Although yes meanwhile she was still talking to other people on the site which wasn't too big of a deal for me, but at the same time she was totally concerned as to whether or not I was.....which I wasn't by the way. Anyhow, it didn't last more than few weeks before the real person came out and well, I didn't want that sort of drama around me.....On one of our first dates she was talking about someone else that she had went out with previously and supposedly she found out he was molesting her daughter blah blah blah. Well I'm thinking what kind of loser piece of **** did she find. Well, want to know what made me send her down the road and away from me, her psycho accusation that I was molesting my daughter EXCUSE ME......I cut her loose so fast that my own head was spinning. And it still took some doing to get her to quit calling after that...what kind of person thinks that the other is molesting their children and yet still will try so hard to hook up with them......

Anyway, online dating is fine if you're careful and take your time about it. I had also done it a few years ago and met some nice ladies, but just not the right one for a long term relationship, though I'm still friends with one that we email pretty regular and even did a remodel job for her earlier this year (um no, no hanky panky) I've also met some nice ladies online in general that could have been worth trying to see what kind of relationship could have developed however again, the long distance stuff just kills it fast when both know that relocation isn't a possibility.

Maybe who knows! Right now isn't the time for me though. Work and my daughter take up so much of my time I really don't have the energy to put into a relationship with anyone else and that won't be fair to them.

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Originally posted by Don:
I think it takes a smart person to be able to date from online sources like that. .....

Well, that explains why it never worked for me! LOL...and I tried lots!

Plus I was stupid enough to think I would find someone actually being honest about themselves or their intentions....I learned differently really quickly.

Tanya,

That is the most realistic, common sense and honest answer I have heard in a long time. You are very realistic about your situation and grounded.