going through seperation/divorce

Im curious to know:
legally how long after seperation can u start dating and does the divorce need to be filed or maybe seperation filed before dating??

Im confused..

Donno, but it can change the terms of the divorce agreement if one can prove that the other is the cause of the divorce, because (s)he was untrue.

Heh no one can stop you from dating. You can date someone else while you are married. You just can't marry someone else. But listen to red, it can affect the divorce if someone was unfaithful

In Michigan....cheating and dating cannot affect the divorce at all. We have no-fault divorce laws here, which means it doesn't matter who is at fault, or who gets what. They want the parties to figure it all out first and then you go in front of a judge to say you both agree....then it gets stamped FINAL. Divorce laws differ in every state.

I just want to say....I remember reading about a story, where the wife sued a girlfriend for breaking a contract of marriage and won. She won a lot of money...and the woman's wages were garnished. Her arguement was that the girlfriend knew the man was married, and she broke a contract/law. The wife sued, because the woman broke up the marriage and the family. The wife also sued the woman for causing mental anguish.

I would be careful about dating anyone at least until the person is out of the house. JMO

PS. You should ask your attorney.

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Originally posted by asia44:
[qb] going through seperation/divorce

Im curious to know:
legally how long after seperation can u start dating and does the divorce need to be filed or maybe seperation filed before dating??

Im confused.. [/qb]

well see im moving out with my son.. and we are doing the divorce on our own terms without lawyers or anything since we dont have any assets but Im not too sure when we will actually do the filing.. So basically im curious cuz i hate being alone..
Once im moved out am i allowed to date even though legally we still are married.. or do i wait until after everything is officially over.. moving out is the first step in seperation?

From my point of view, it's just better practice to wait until you're divorced ~ it just keeps things a bit more "clear". That said, there is no real harm in spending time with a good friend ... just know your boundaries; the truth of the extent of your friendship/relationship will be upheld if you are honest.
I waited until I was divorced to begin dating and I'm really happy that I waited. Not just because it seemed like the right thing to do, but also, it gave me enough time to be sure of what I was looking for in potential relationships.
I had just left a horrible situation and I needed to make sure that my "stuff" was fully dealt with before I began a relationship with another man ... waiting for my divorce gave me that space I needed.

I agree, waiting until after the divorce was final helps emotionally. If you and your ex are doing this on your own, you should be able to have the divorce finalized within 90 days I believe. There are timeframes that they require for a cooling down period to make sure you truly want to divorce and not just acting on impulse. Depending on how your marriage was, waiting could be the answer. From what it sounds like, you should probably wait. Being lonely when you haven't even moved out is not a good sign. You need some time for yourself and your son. By jumping into a relationship right away you may get hurt, not to mention hurt the person you will be with and possibly your son. Seek some counseling to sort out your feelings and when you are stronger you will know when you are ready to date. Good Luck!!!

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Originally posted by asia44:
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Originally posted by asia44:
[qb] going through seperation/divorce

Im curious to know:
legally how long after seperation can u start dating and does the divorce need to be filed or maybe seperation filed before dating??

Im confused.. [/qb]

well see im moving out with my son.. and we are doing the divorce on our own terms without lawyers or anything since we dont have any assets but Im not too sure when we will actually do the filing.. So basically im curious cuz i hate being alone..
Once im moved out am i allowed to date even though legally we still are married.. or do i wait until after everything is officially over.. moving out is the first step in seperation? [/qb]

I know this is the cheap way out (without attorneys) but please be careful. This is what my ex did...got someone to draw up the papers without an attorney and he had them filed with the courts. To this day, we are still fighting about things because things you don't specifically think about come up later...and unless it specifically states in the divorce decree, it's just up in the air. Some things in a general divorce just aren't specific enough. I moved out of state before my ex filed the petition. He knew I had moved yet he didn't want to spend the extra money to revise the decree or visitation for our son. Since we just have the standard visitation schedule, he still has to see our son every other weekend and he's got to drive 200 miles to pick him up and bring him home. It's only because our divorce decree doesn't state that I have to meet him anywhere. The idea of having an attorney is to protect you from the things that may come up in the future becuase usually in a divorce, most people are too emotional to think about those 'little' things. If it were just you, I would say go for it...but if you have a child, I would speak to an attorney. At least have one read over the final documents before filing them.