so Im aggravated, this guy I work with has been flirting with me, asking me out for 3 months. I told him that I was not ready to date yet, but this past sunday I give him my number
ASSUMING that ment he would call me!!! Well he hasn't called. Im also a little hurt, I let myself think of goingout with this guy, maybe even a little crush. I was so hurt by my ex, Ive been alone for 8 months...
so I go for it,,, and this is whats happened.
why would he do this??
I don't know what to say to him when I see hi,m tom. at work

hmmm..hard to say what goes through a guy's brain, but it sounds like maybe you hurt his ego by "rejecting" him for three months and now he's doing the same?

The only suggestion I have is talk to him. Maybe he's just nervous, but if he's not a complete jerk, he'll tell you either way, even if he's just not interested anymore.

But yeah, just not knowing how they feel is a completely gut wrenching experience. It's better to have a casual conversation and find out for sure than keep your hopes up and him just not call.

Or just flirt with someone else at work and see if he get's jealous.

but that's probably bad advice. LOL

Thanks--maybe I am being too negative. My mom said maybe he's shy.
I rreally haven' t rejected him. I explained my situation and we flirt and stuff, he just asked for my number sunday at work ( I work weekends at a resort-he's the bartender Im the cocktail server)
He seems sweet and sincere. But I don't need another man that just kinda is into me, my ego needs a guy who's crazy about me... Plus I really need some lovin' and I can't bare the idea of hooking up with someone who isn't head over heels with me.
Ill talk to him, Iwas thinking Id give him a little bit of a hard time but still be nice to him.

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Originally posted by astarte502:
Or just flirt with someone else at work and see if he get's jealous.

but that's probably bad advice. LOL

well I thought of that too, I figure Ill flirt with the other bartender too, he's a friend of mine. He's way too young for me, but I was thinking the same thing IM SCAN-daaaa-less

Sometimes guys are just weird. Maybe just give him a few days and see if he calls...

If not, be brave and ask him out yourself

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Originally posted by darlingk:
well I thought of that too, I figure Ill flirt with the other bartender too, he's a friend of mine. He's way too young for me, but I was thinking the same thing IM SCAN-daaaa-less

The only problem with this is, it can backfire on you. If he thinks you like the other guy, he might not call altogether. That's why talking to him might be the only way to find out if he's really interested.

Guys and phone calls

I like to think guys have a one track mind .... Anyway... don't put all the eggs in one basket -- that's the best advice I can think of at the moment

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Originally posted by Tessmit:
Guys and phone calls

I like to think guys have a one track mind .... Anyway... don't put all the eggs in one basket -- that's the best advice I can think of at the moment

LOL...Pffft! yeah...never happens with women!

Just tell him straight out at work...dont beat around the bush..."did you lose my number? I dont give it to just anyone? ...and then walk away.

That'll get his attention. If he doesnt say something or call then say...."duh...you'r supposed to call when a girl gives you her number".

if he still doesnt call...he's Gay.

When a guy asks for my number - doesn't happen too often LOL - I say, "Well, why don't you give me yours as I don't really give my nr. out" (which is true).

That way, I am not dependant on him calling me, but the ball is in my court, so to speak.

Act like you could care less if he calls or doesn't call.

I just had the same thing happen to me. I was dating a guy online and we decided I'd come see him for my birthday and all of a sudden he stopped calling and emailing and IMing me ... maybe he wasn't the person he claimed to be, why are people like this? Is honesty too much to ask for?

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Originally posted by paulj_in_phx:
if he still doesnt call...he's Gay.

ROFLMAO Great Advice Paul!

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Originally posted by clearwatervine:
I just had the same thing happen to me. I was dating a guy online and we decided I'd come see him for my birthday and all of a sudden he stopped calling and emailing and IMing me ... maybe he wasn't the person he claimed to be, why are people like this? Is honesty too much to ask for?

Must be something in the air - happened to me too. I'm just thinking maybe he's just too shallow to appreciate what he saw in person.