Maybe I wouldn't be moving back in with her at 36 y/o. I got into a relationship with a woman whose children were 10 and 17. My girls are 4 and 2. I share about 50% custody with their mother and at first things were rosey. We went through one spell were she said she couldn't do it, couldn't raise 2 more babies, I told her she didn't have to raise them, just love them. Well, we moved in together (Bad Choice) thinking that we'd be the brady bunch every other weekend. Well, it didn't work. After a year, she told me to leave, she didn't want anything to do with my kids or me, being a teacher I have zero money (salary-support-student loans = 0) so I was left with a difficult decision, I have to move 4 hours away from my daughters now, leave my teaching job, and move in with my mom until I can get on my feet.

A word to the wise: Even if your potential mate has kids, it's no guarantee that they will want or love our kids. Also, learn and become friends first, then see if your willing to take the next step.

Wish me luck!!! email ,me if you wish: gandalf052566@yahoo.com

Scott

scott,

a lot of people are finding themselves in your position! I am one of them....being divorced with child/children in this day and age when things are so brutal, tough, and expensive...we find that even though we have established careers, we cannot afford to do it alone...we need the support from our families temporarily...the truth is: at least we are there for our kids. my 5 year old daughter's father has decided to abandon ship, so i am it (no child support-NOTHING!)! at least I can say I am there for her 100%!...and thats all that is important...who cares what we look like? I wish I had listened to my dad too! would coulda shoulda........take care! email me if you would like: terrahill2002@yahoo.com