Erik is talking about adopting Kayley so she had have his name. this morning so cute between them. She gave a hug and was waving bye, bye. I'm been keeping kayley away from in case it didn't work out together us.

i'm sure not looking forward that battle in court. I really have a little that her father is fight us.

If the father doesn't want to sign over his rights and allow someone to adopt her, it will be next to impossible to get a judge to order it.
That's something I learned the hard way YEARS ago, when I thought that tons of money and high priced lawyers could force me to give up my oldest daughter when I knew I couldn't even afford any kind of lawyer...little did I know that all I really needed to do was show up in court and refuse to sign those papers.
You might talk to a lawyer and get their opinion on that as well, it would be a shame to spend a bunch of money on a case with no hope to win, and talk to her father beforehand as well to find out for sure whether he would fight that or just let Eric adopt her.

Thanks Don. we are checking out of the options. i've haven't spoken to kayleys father since that 2 hr visit. Erik adorables her. but when again he doesn't been to be the biofather to be a dad. he loves her so much.

We are going to meet with lawyer after we married to see what options that we have.

I been down this road, this isn't impossible as my step dad adobted my brother and I. my mother is ciological but my dad isn't.

If he shows no interest in your child's life ... doesn't call, write, visit, etc... then it is actually easier then you think. My parents didn't even use a lawyer, remembering back as I was either 7 or 8.

I remember being asked what new name I wanted because I was allowed to change my name completely. I was in 1st grade when it happened so I remember in detail going into school, tell my friends who told me that I couldn't just change my name. I can't beleive I even remember the seating arrangement and the classrooms where I went as I left that school in the middle of second grade and haven't been back.

But back to the main point, if the real dad is in the picture then it does become REAL HARD because he has the right to object and the courts will agree with him even if his effort is very minimal.

I think they put something in all the local papers and everything in an attempt to contact the father to give him a change to object, so just go through the due process and see how things go.

doesn't adoption also relieve the NCP of financial obligations also if he agrees?

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Originally posted by Tessmit:
doesn't adoption also relieve the NCP of financial obligations also if he agrees?

Yes, it does because legally he would not be the father to the state. He would also not have any visitation rights or anything else a father or mother would normally have.

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Originally posted by HannahsBoy:
"doesn't adoption also relieve the NCP of financial obligations also if he agrees?"

If you are referring to my comment what I meant was that if he is paying support it would be impossible to show abandonment, hence impossible to take his rights away unless he agrees. Course on the other hand that just might be the thing to get him to agree...No more CP payments. Some people have their price..my father signed away 6 of us for 5000 bucks. So when I was 6 I was worth exactly $833.33. Anybody good at economics...with inflation since 1965 what would I be worth today??

My biological father still has an open case with the state of Pa because he didn't pa child support up to the time his father'y rights were terminated. Child Support is forced by the state, heor she has to make a WILLING effort to be apart of his or her child's life.

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Originally posted by Tessmit:
doesn't adoption also relieve the NCP of financial obligations also if he agrees?

yes - termination all responsiblity from his rights the father.

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Originally posted by HannahsBoy:
I believe most states require complete abandonment issues or severe abuse to actually strip someone of their parental rights and i think i saw here somewhere that he is paying support. i understand Erik wanting to do this as I'm the same way but she doesn't need his name for him to be a Daddy.....spend the money on your Disney cruise.

for what he does for a living I need to speak with attorney. We need someone prepare documentation at his level. One documentation had a typo and he wanted away to get thru out of the court. He is attorney.

It wouldn't hurt, lawyers do have experience with these matter but they cost an arm and a leg.

Right now are checking into all of options..

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Originally posted by Kayley's Mommy:
Right now are checking into all of options..

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Good luck with which ever decision you make.

We both what is best for kayley. Erik loves Kayley. Now she is reaching for him.

Is Erik your finance or BF?