Hello All,

My name is Kate, I am the separated mother of two boys Matt 6 and Ethan 3....

I have been separated for 1 year, very amicably..for the past 10 months the ex has been living in the basement...but moved out yesterday.

Was much harder than I thought it would be...i guess not so much b/c I want reconciliation or anything..just i think watching 8 years of memories come to a close.

So in this past week i have gotten a fulltime job which I start tomorrow..have put my youngest in daycare (which was the hardest thing ever), and had the ex move out...and yet I still have a smile on my face. Suprisingly haven't cracked yet..lol.

Glad to have found a place where others can relate..

Hey I know the feeling about the ex moving out. We actually thought we could try it again, not together but just as room mates, who knew it would have been that hard. When he left the second time it was like the first all over again. Congrats on the job and the day care thing gets easier. Nice to have you around.

That is good you can look at the positive in this situation, I know at times it gets hard but stressing I find makes it even harder.

It was very difficult..the roomate thing was o.k...but I found that he would step over the boundries within my life. Asking questions..and just forgetting that even though we lived in the same house we were separated.

It has been a hectic week, and like everyone else doubts creep into me. But I also know that my marriage is over..and like a friend of mine said..i'm spreading my wings and learning to fly..

kate

You know sadly mine still steps over the boundries. But my favourite thing to do is say go home!!! Sometimes I am sure I say it just because I can. When my weeks aren't hectic now I sometimes think what did I forget to do? Oddly when things are calm I feel like something is missing.