I've spent a few hours here reading various posts, and learning about peoples' lives and stories... and I am struck with a thought that makes me so sad...

I've read stories of separated couples whose exes don't want to spend time with their kids, even though the other parent is willing to allow visits and access... but in most cases they are just jerks and deadbeats. I simply don't understand this.

And here I am, dying to spend time with my child, but I can't because she is four provinces away from me and no one seems to be able to help me get her back. Other than myself of course.

I just thought it was ironic... at least on a personal level. In any case, my heart goes out to the people whose stories I read (too many to name) but take my word for it: there are still some good people out there. I've met several.

pe:machine
welcome

I hope you stick around and jump in any where

I am a little south of the border, but Welcome.

Hi pe:machine and welcome to SFV. I'm assuming you're a dad since there is no clear indication that I've found yet. I don't know if I can guide in a helpful direction Could you define "help me get her back" and especially the "back" part. Does this mean she was with you or closer at one time? Is there an existing agreement or other official document? Are you paying support?

You'll find that you may have to do most of the footwork yourself but all is not lost.

This is a great place to help yourself too. Jump in anywhere and yes, there still are some good people out there and you just met many more.

(edit: I have just read your other thread...oops sorry. Irony is when one must stick their head in the mouth of a lion to save their child. The legal system can be a real lion. Good luck.)

Yes, I am a father. To avoid repetition across the board, the relevant details to my story are in this thread

Thanks again for the warm welcome. I think I will like it here.

Well i googled to see what's out there and I think you're farther ahead on things than I am. I couldn't find a whole lot on inter-provincial custody cases. I'll keep looking but I think you're on the right track. The only suggestion I can make is to visit bcfathers.com (sp?). They are a bit over the top but there might be someone there who can suggest something to help.

I feel for you sir. What you are going through is one of my own greatest fears. Best of luck to you.