An issue came up today and for the first time I could see the tears of pain and abandenment from my step son. I love all my boy, my 2 and my 2 steps. I would die for them in order to protect them. He was raised as part of the family on my side and is accepted as my son and as a relative to the others. Today I called my exwife about some documents for my stepson, she flat out said that he is 18 yrs old now and could do what ever the he*l he wanted to do. She even said that there is a rumor going around that his real father might be dead and not to tell him, and besides what does he care. I told her that she was wrong for hiding that fact and that she sould have had his father's name on the birth certificate.
I beleave that everyone has the right to know what is happening in their own life and that a person should make their own choices, right or wrong, its their choice and not mine. Once you make it live with it. So a daddys love i told him that the way she was talking that it sounded that she was glad to be rid of him. She refuses to acknowledge any of his text's or calls. It's only when i call that she agrees to anything. I shouldn't have to do any of this. I love and beleave in him, all of them. I have never seen so much hurt in his face. I wanted to hug him and tell him that i love him and that i will always be here for him, but; i didn't want to smother him. I some way it hurt me and it also made me feel as if i had failed my children, even now as i type this i want to cry. They say men are not suppose to cry, but; I feel his pain of rejection just as she rejected me for another. So as the bad parent I let him know that he has nothing to prove to me, just prove to himself that he can make something of himself, however; as a parent i am worried about him and what he thinks about his mother. I tell him no matter what, she is your mother give her that much respect and nothing more, protect the family because that is exactly what we are, FAMILY!
Why would a mother do that to her own son and then send him off like that. I guess i will never know? :=(
Sorry about this. I have so much in my head that i just sometimes ramble on and on. Sometime i just want to quit my job and up and leave. Just get lost from everyone. It just kills me.

I'm so sorry that is happening in your life. He's blessed to have you care about him.

You can't make someone be a better parent and some parents just don't have the sense to treat their own lovingly.

I think you gave him great advice as to not worry about someone who seems to have distanced herself from him. He is an adult and some families just go through spurts like such. When there is a real crisis, that is where it counts.

I suppose sometimes having a new relationship cuts old ties unjustly... sadly...if that is what your EW is doing, it doesn't sound as if family values mean very much to her and are somewhat disposable? I suppose she will reap what she sows one day.