I feel so bad for my husband right now. He is such a good father to his children from his first marriage and all his ex-wife wants to do is take the children away from him. Believe me I was a single mom for a while and my ex was no prize, but to see how much he loves his children is amazing. That is why it kills me to see him in so much tormant.

His ex wife and him have been seeing a therepist together (ordered by the Court) to learn how to communicate better. But as she has admitted numerous times when she goes into the meeting with him she puts on an act. They have been hammering out a custody schedule for months now and with her unwilling to comprimise on anything aside from "HIM GIVING UP HIS TIME WITH THE CHILDREN" after the last session he spoke with her and agreed to one of the visitation schedules that they (or should I say she) proposed at the meeting. She said they could start it but that it was only going to be on a temporary basis until she saw a legal advisor. He said how about we just wait until you are sure you want to go through with it that way it doesn't mess up the children going from one schedule to another one and then if on a whim the ex decided she didn't want to do it anymore yank the new schedule out from under them.

She just informed him that she would be seeing an attorney today, but in true fashion never called. To discuss things. Oh yeah it also took her over a month and half to even get to talk to an attorney. THen as we were eating dinner tonight his eldest son let it slip that mommy and her boyfriend will be moving in together in a completely other part of the state. Now just a little history she vowed that she would do anything to take the kids away from my husband which now obviously means moving 4 hours away.

He sees his children on average almost every other day. He is a dedicated father, a true man. He belongs to the children's PTA at their elementary school, he goes on every field trip, he is the teachers PTA assistant for both of the boys home rooms. He pays for them to go to after school activities and is the one who takes them there.

She does nothing for these children but use them for the money he can give her. She holds them over his head even after he dragged her through COURT and the Judge said she was nuts and gave him more time and basically said if he wanted to bring a petition in front of the COURT to get sole custody he would entertain it.

I just don't know what to do for him anymore. Everyday, it is something that she forgot to do for the children for school, or she forgot to give them a snack for school, bring in the proper clothes for school, **** it even took her until 2 days before school registration to sign them up properly for public school. He is constantly picking up after her. He has to remind her of her responsibilities.

Of course, it is amazing how when they talk in person or on the phone she can say how much she doesn't have time for her boys, how she doesn't have time to read the paperwork in their book bag, how she is working to much overtime. How she has babysitters watching them all the time, how takign them to the doctors is a waste of time. That **** the younger boy threw up in the middle of the night several times but she felt that he coudl still go to school. But when it comes to e-mails she will e-mail him and recant everything she said verbally. Basically putting it in writing that she is this awesome mother and he is ****.

She never calls the boys on the evenings that her boyfriend isn't over. She only calls the boys at our house when he is there becuase then it shows that she is a good mommmy and actually cares about her kids. But of course her conversations only last for about 3 minutes altogether including the time her boyfriend talks to the children.

When my husband calls his sons they can talk up to 15 -20 mins each.

It just kills me he cares so much, he does so much for his boys he has never let them down in anyway and all is ex wants to do is take them away. As she put it he needs to pay her and he needs to give up his time. He always ends up so upset becuase when does the good guy actually get recognised as the good guy and not locked in with all the other boys out there that up and leave their children.

She says that he screwed up his children's life when he filed for divorce. THat if he just didnt' do that none of this would be happening. SO let me get this straight she has a boyfriend that she has been with for goign on two years but still feels that only if my husband and her stayed together she woudln't have to put him through all of this. Can you say she needs to get over him!!!


So how do you console someone who tries every way possible to be a good father and still gets the shaft?????

Hi Lila,
I would like to email you a resource that would help.
katie march

Well being in the same situation but not having an SO I don't know. My 3 youngest want me to get them out of there but the court so far hasn't listened to anything.

I have had a show cause / contempt going on 6 months now and she has moved.

So I hope you the best.